Ok you GLBT's help me out with this... (not bashing)?

Question

ok i'm gay and everything, right? well it kind of disgusts me when i see all these gay pride parades and gay people walking down the street naked! i mean yes, i have pride, but who gives a **** when your naked? if you're gay, then show it by holding hands with the one you love. wear pride t-shirts or jewelry. but walking down the streets naked and dissing ALL straight people is just stupid. it's a sign of major immaturity. and another thing, to all of you. dont straight bash. True, no one wants gay bashing, but straight people dont like bashing either. just ignore them when they bash you. just grow up. those of you who do any of the above give the rest of us, who want to live a NORMAL life, a bad name. i am constantly criticized around school and even with my friends because of my sexuality. "hey do you want to have sex with like, every girl in school?" NO!!! god just please grow up. i have a gf for 5 yrs and i luv her. :)

so tell me why some of you do that?

Answer 1

Where do you live?! What kind of laws allow public nudity in your community?? (Sorry. None obviously.)

I've never seen, nor participated in, a Pride march where ANY participants were naked.

On the other hand, if your question were hyperbolic and your intent was to say "partially clad" instead of naked, I'm prone to ask, "Have you ever been to Mardis Gras or Carnival in Rio? NOW we're talking about lots of skin showing, especially at Carnival...both of which are festively HETEROsexual. At Carnival (Rio), many floats feature topless females.

Best Wishes!

EDIT ADDENDUM: After reading the homophobic responses, I hasten to add that what has now become in many communities a party environment instead of a Gay rights event, many "parades" throughout the world still remain GLBT Rights Marches, as it was in the beginning.

Many Breeder's fail to understand the GLBT culture is different from their culture, due in no small part to oppressive, discriminatory heterosexuals and the society they've created for us. What one will see at Gay Rights Marches are the many facets of our community ... if one cares to look beyond the scantily clad bodies.
There are more community-focused floats and organizations found in virtually every march/parade than those bearing people wearing little clothing. Instead of seeing these organizations, they see a "flaunting" of sexuality.

Pity the poor Breeder (and others) who see only that. Fear and anger can be terribly blinding sometimes. But that's okay.
The marches are for US and not them.

After all is said and done, no one is forcing a Breeder to attend a march or to watch as it's covered through the media.

Answer 2

The skin you see in a gay rights march is probably much less than the skin you can see on daily soap operas. People are attracted to sexuality and gay people are no different. And skin says sexuality.
Maybe the fact that you make a distinction between a "normal" life and gay sexuality is the reason for making our sexual statements so public. I would dearly love to see adds or shows with same gender couples kissing or laying in bed but we just are not allowed that by society yet.
There is a certain commercial in which a woman in a bikini slithered over a sudsy car hood. I try to look the other direction when it comes on. It is some mens idea of "happiness" but not mine. I hope as you get older you will chose to look away rather than to censor.

Answer 3

I think there are a lot of internal homophobia issues that you have based on this question. Historically subordinate groups have not gained respect or rights by attempting to "fit in" with the dominant culture group. Gay pride parades are a demonstration of agency in the same way that the million man march was. In terms of nakedness, the gay male community is very centered around sex and sexuality because of the nature of sexual interactions between men. In addition to this I sense that there is a sentiment that if society views the gay community as only being about sex, then you might as well let them think it because there is very little that you can do to change people's assumptions unless they make a conscious effort to change those assumptions. Frankly if people have a problem with your sexuality (you said kids ask, "hey do you want to have sex with like, every girl in school?") then please remember that it's their issue and not yours. Meaning that they have things that they need to work through, and the only thing that you need to work through is feeling ashamed of who you are. You don't have to be proud, but it's honestly a MUCH smaller deal than people make it.

Answer 4

I've never walked down a street naked, but I have better things to do with my time then be a judgemental b*tch about how others want to spend their free time. If someone wants to be half naked on a pride float, cool. No one is forcing anyone to go to a pride parade, if it bugs you that much, just don't go. Everyone has a right to personal expression, and I don't see how the guy with the face piercings or the girl with the mohawk or the gay boy wearing nothing but a thong impacts me in any way, shape, or form. If that half naked gay guy is having a good time then more power to him.

I think that the immaturity comes from critiquing other people's life choices because *gasp* they might "go too far" (aka farther then I would go) or *horrors* "being big sluts" (aka have more sex then I want them to have). Adults are happy when other adults find personally fufilling and consentual activities to make them happy. Children stomp their feet and pout when others don't do what they want them to do. I also have to point out the irony on being lectured about immaturity by someone who actually uses the term "luv"...

I have never actually seen any gay people bash straight people. I've seen gay people complain about straight people, make fun of stupid elements of straightness, and express our frustration at the privledges afforded to straight people. If you're hanging out with gays who straight bash, then maybe you just need to find new friends.

I never wanted to sleep with everyone at school (although some people thought I did because I was bi), but I have slept with a lot of people in the last 5 years. I do it because it is fun, educational, and personally and spiritually fufilling. I don't see how that impacts you in any way and I would hope that you have things in your life that are fun, educational, and personally and spiritually fufilling so you can stop wasting your life b*tching about mine.

Answer 5

any openly flaunted sexuality is always disgusting, whether it's a gay man in South Beach wearing nothing but sparkly underpants or a pair of fake breasts waggled about on MTV.
To put this more bluntly, a wench is still a wench, however anybody wants to dress it up. They're still crass, uncultured, and disrespecting themselves and others by exposing their bodies in this manner- because half-naked bodies are an advertisement, one that most of us would rather not see it.
I also agree that those in the gay community who do choose to dress up like multicolored freaks give us a bad name...I am a young very ordinary bi guy, but I do have to agree a little bit with what others have said. such flaunting is an extreme rebellion/reaaction against that silent, choking fear that most of us have felt for our entire lives. It's quite a troubling social deformity, but until we raise the bar, get rid of the inequalities, and discuss the dangers of a "free love" lifestyle, the obnoxiousness on both sides will, unfortunately, not be leaving us any time soon.

Answer 6

I do agree that parading in skin-tight underwear and showing off oiled-muscle only serves to give a slanted view of gay people.
I think it does, to a certain extent, cause people to have misguided view of gay people.

However, in a way, I find that more than anything, gay parade is a statement, a protest to the conservative Victorian values, a way to disgust those who hate gays even more.

Straight people bashing is another faux pas, but when you have been discriminated so long, it is hard not ot fall into this faux pas.

Answer 7

I don't know because I am a heterosexual woman. I'd like to say that is exactly what I have never understood, and what I have had issues with...You have done more, for my opinion of Homosexuals than any Gay Pride Parade with Adults dressing bizarre. I hope your community supports you. Only then will they get the respect they want.

Answer 8

I don't know what pride event you went to but I've never encountered a naked person at any events I have attended. I don't always agree with some of the saying on shirts or skimpy swim wear and costumes but that's their deal and it's no different than at any straight event or public beach.
I agree bashing against any one is wrong everytime but that includes LGBT speaking against other LGBT and how they choose to dress.

Answer 9

I agree: gay parades are an exploitave dysfunctional outright venting of frustration of it's participants---who don't exhibit their expressive feelings with much sense of class or suitable style.

And you're not alone: there are literally THOUSANDS (and I venture to guess the number may peak near a million or so) of mature gay people who view such parades the same way. They feel gay parade sichophants are an embarrasment to their lifestyle.

Me? I'm str8, happily married to Mrs. Wizard. I don't care if anyone sees my views expressed here as "gay bashing". Whatever you feel best.....you have my blessings.

Answer 10

May be the message these people tried to sent to the community is straight forward......'GAY' is about 'SEX'. NOT relationship, NOT family ties, NOT love. Too bad you are feeling that way girl. Sometimes reality is a hard bite. Nevertherless we have to take a chunk and swollow.

GAY PARADE is just a lame excuse to fight for rights. It is just for the gays to parade what they have, to have fun and show indescentcies.

I sympathize with you for being a victim of this situation. So Sorry.