What do you think? Im 15 just about 16 and my 16yrs old boyfriend wants to have sex. I tell him im not ready, and then he asks when will you be and I say soon, and stuff like that, but really I think im to young, I dont know, but I dont really want to tell him that, cause he really wants to have sex but I dont, and also he wants to have sex in the next 2yrs cause that's when we will be done school, its weird, but I don think Im ready and he said he will wait for me but when I finish school I will only be 17 and is that to young still or what. So what do you all think...
2006-07-31 16:38:05 · 41 answers · asked by Candice_Awesome 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all - hooray for you! For knowing that you're not ready yet. Yeah, I think 15 is too young. Only YOU will know when you're ready. I know it's hard to believe at your age (or for others that are your age, I should say), but you will regret it if you have sex now, and you'll regret that your first time wasn't with someone you were in love with. It really is better if you're in love, and if you're both ready, as opposed to groping around in the back of a car or in your parent's basement. He needs to accept it when you say you're not ready. Tell him that as soon as you are, he'll be the first to know, but until then, drop it. If he persists in pressuring you, he may care more about sex than you. It's tough for guys his age, with all of those raging hormones, and friends egging him on, but that is NOT your issue! Stand firm, and wait until YOU are ready - you will know when you are, I promise.
Edited to add - you may want to tell him that you'll be ready to have sex as soon as HE's ready to be a father. There is NO 100% foolproof birth control, and OH YES you can get pregnant your first time.
2006-07-31 16:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is if he truly loves you than he will wait until you are ready. Personally I think your too young. Kids now days don't take sex seriously. Sex should be something special between two people that love each other. First time should be special, and most of the time its not with kids at your age.No offense to you, but at your age you should have other things on your mind then sex. Good luck! Don't give into something your not ready for. If he cant handle your decision, than maybe he's
not the right person for you.
2006-07-31 16:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by love ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not one to preach about this subject....but I will tell you this...I got pregnant at 15 almost 16, and my son was 3 months, almost 4 months old when i was having my 17th birthday....instead of having fun by going out with friends i had to spend the day splitting diaper duties and feedings with my husband, which is the baby's father. The only person who can judge how young is too young is you, only you will know when you are ready. in most cases of teen pregnancy/parenting the father doesnt stick around and if he does it almost never works between him and the mother, i was VERY lucky to have such a GREAT guy to stick around and still be here for me and our son...and dont take that for granted a day in my life.....so YOU make the choice because its YOUR life.....dont let someone else decide for you...but be careful
2006-07-31 16:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by shaunies_babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to engage in an adult behavior like sex, first you have to behave like an adult and go about this responsibly.
Are your parents in the picture? You should talk to them about your decision. If you don't have accessible parents, talk to another adult you can trust. Be responsible about this decision. Go to Planned Parenthood or your doctor to discuss the risks and birth control options. Condoms aren't enough! What would it be like if you got pregnant? You can get pregnant your very first time. What if you contracted an STD? Did you know that there are very common STDs out there that you'll have for the rest of your life, and some that can kill you?
I'm bothered by your so-called boyfriend's behavior. Any guy who is pressuring you for sex doesn't really care about you. He cares about sex. Sure, I know you think he likes you and you like the physical attention, but I'm here to tell you that he just likes his hormones and is only concerned with his needs, not yours. He's not worth it. A true man who respected you wouldn't even consider pressuring you. Don't you think you deserve better than that?
Lose the loser and keep your virginity, that's my vote. Wait until you're at least 18 and you're with someone who truly respects you.
2006-07-31 16:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by sugarpine25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 16 getting ready to turn 17(in the next 3 days i was going to be 17) when i had sex for the first time. If i were you, if you have open parents talk to them about it. I personally think its way to young, and if your boyfriend is like that and wanting to pressure you, is he worth keeping around? just some stuff to think about.
2006-07-31 16:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by xxlilmekristyrae32xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when he says he will wait for you he's lying. He will wait until he's done waiting and then he will move on to someone who will give it up. You are smart for not doing that. Do not have sex with him. 15 is too young - you are right. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders (moreso than most 15 year olds), and you need to stay that way. Unless you are ready for a child at your age you need to just do the smart thing and not have sex. Don't let him talk you into it, please! If you get pregnant, he'll be gone quicker than you can imagine!! So, please please wait..
2006-07-31 16:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 15 years old in not yet matured to face the responsibility of beign a parent. Sex is a part of life and one of the basic needs of life, However, do you know that sex also is the cause of some who loses their dignity? Sex is not unreal, but all of should have a limmitation to avoid losing of dignities which does not only apply to young but also adults. In the case of a 15 year old to legalize sex is precisely prohibited
2006-07-31 16:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question you are obviously to young. If your boyfriend is willing to wait to years then he should be willing to wait until you have no doubts and are completely ready. You should tell him that you are not ready and you want to wait. If he can't respect that then he must not care that much for you or even LOVE you so you should just leave him if he can't wait until you are completely ready with no doubts.
2006-07-31 17:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to young. You can Have Intimacy with out intercourse. Just kiss etc. There's other things to do too. Wait to your in your 20's. Allot of these Kids on here don't know what there talking about. There Hormones are going through the roof. Take advance with someone that seen kids in school get STD's. Please don't get your pants in a bundle with your boy friend. He can wait too.
2006-07-31 16:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever u feel physically, emotionally, and mentally ready thats a good time... theres not really an age too young unless its like under 12 or someting... just as long as u know ur ready... try to ignore pressure... so what u think is right for u
2006-07-31 16:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋