Is anyone out there dating a man that has children and can advise me on how this should fit in with your relationship. He says that his children are important, which they are, and he feels that its important for him to have quality time with them, which I agree is also correct, but I also want him to have quality time for us, which due to his work is not always possible. I want him to compromise from time to time and give time to our relationship from time to time as well as his children, but I dont feel he see's that as important as I do. He has told me to just fit in with his life. What s your advice
2006-07-31 16:31:26 · 5 answers · asked by andrea l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st of all ur just dating.. take it slow.. if he has children then u should know that taking care of children is a full-time job especially if he is the custodial parent.. and if ur a parent u know exactly how rough it can be tryna parent and date.. if u really like him u'll be patient.. if u can't be then u need to move on and find a man w/no kidz (good luck w/that one)...
if anything u should be praising that man.. how many men u know r part of their childrens lives?? do u have kids?? if not do u wanna have kids?? if u answered no to any of these questions then u need to ask urself is dating this man worth the headache...
2006-07-31 16:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man who has two grown up children and the other one is living with us, I know that it is hard to be in a relationship that has a children of not your own and it is difficult to be in the situation but luckily my husband has a lot of time with me he spend his all time with me and thats probably the problem why his daughter is being funny with me. But you know what if the man that you are dating is really serious and looking forward for your future, he should be able to find time to spend it with you, I think it is hard for you to be his only second choice, as a woman we are looking for a lifetime partner, you couldnt fit into his life as a second choice isnt it? explain to him how you feel and if he doesn't compromise with you I think its better if you'll be off without him, someone will come along in your life that you will fit in his life as he will fit in your life.
2006-08-01 07:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by wala_lang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from my partner has a daugher aged 3 and three evenings a week his mum picks her up from childcare and instead of bringing her to our house she takes her to hers and my partner goes round there to see her then takes her home ,then he has football two days a week so I see my partner from 8 30 pm three nights a week and not till 11 two .Also my partners ex wife is a complete ***** and thinks she is the bees knees using kiddie as a weapon and blackmail .I have been with my partner for three years nearly and it does not get any differnent to what it is like now so if you do not like it tell him to get lost and find someone who does have time for you I have got used to it and kind of enjoy the time alone but I have three kiddies myself aged 2 and 4 .If you do not ave kids then leave as you will always come second or third depending on his ex wife /partner .If you do love him and want to be with him then you will have to learn to deal with it and maybe find something to do with a mate while he is busy maybe it will get him thinking and he will realise how you feel
2006-08-01 04:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and tell him how you feel. and let him know that you understand that he needs to spend time with his children but you need some of his time to.
2006-07-31 23:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by queencole35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave this man.This relationship is not good for you.
2006-08-01 04:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋