Can't they see that they have turned into lousy lovers and it's just not worth the excitment of 2 minutes?
2006-07-31 16:20:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like the men are taking offence and all the whores who cheat with them are equally offended. Hmmm.
2006-07-31 16:25:46 · update #1
Why is sex the woman's job? Guys want it so damn bad, they should work for it.
2006-07-31 16:28:11 · update #2
Because if they didn't blame the woman they would have to look at themselves. Then they would have to be like, "Wow, I suck in bed." And then they would have to change, i.e. try to put our needs first (or at least second for god's sake.) I do believe that is why.
2006-07-31 17:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by goatluvver 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What ends up happing in a marriage why men say their women are the reason for lack of sex is because the spark is gone. When a couple has sex for the first few times they are very excited about it. Once a couple has been married for awhile they are use to each other, the excitement is almost gone. Honestly men tend to skip the foreplay and basically say OK lets have sex and then bam.... it's over. To a women she needs to feel loved and like she is more then just sex especially to the man she married. She wants more then her husband saying lets do it. I think that is why women tend to ease away from sex is because they don't feel special anymore.
2006-07-31 23:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so hip on making him work for it, than make yourself unavailable to him when he is wanting to have sex. Sex doesn't happen everyday for years on end when two people have been together for several years or even months. The sex gets dull it takes both people to spice up the sex life. Both of you need to do different things try different locations each time within the house or wherever you please as long as you aren't breaking any laws. Not one person is to blame when the sex goes bad, but the blame is placed on both, especially with the wide range of sexual stuff that is out there to try out and better ones sex life.
2006-07-31 23:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady_Bluerose_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first we blame you because you are the one in control of the activity. Two, you may not doing your part to keep it exciting either so we don't perform our best. Three, maybe you need to actually say something to him like "dude, we would have it more often if it were actually enjoyable". And then help him understand what is missing. Maybe he isn't performing well because he is stressed at work, finances (which is about 90% of the time). Talk about it!
2006-07-31 23:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by big_dreamer2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know girl I ask myself that question all the time, the way I see it is that it is their job to do all the pleasing or at least initiate it. Like my husband who is always yelling about being the man all the time so if you want to be the "man" all the time I say start the sex.
2006-07-31 23:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Qui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read any of the answers, yet -
But hell yeah! I am right there with you on this one. My husband gets all mad when I tell him I just not in the mood to get 'messy' tonight. Or if he persists (which he usually does) I just make him pull out and then he gets mad too.
I think I used to enjoy the messy part of it - don't know what the hell he is doing wrong anymore - I have even given him detailed instructions on what to do and where to do it, but he has to throw in his own interpretations!!
Well I thought it was only me.
2006-08-01 00:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by not_in_it_4_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should buy yourself some KY if your not feeling turned-on enough. You need to learn to spread your legs for your husband. He's the man you supposedly love and married. Men need sex, it's like food for them and your idea of he should have to work for it is stupid. Does your husband make you work for the things in life that you need. Stop acting like a child and fulfill your wifely duties.
2006-07-31 23:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the macho in them.....they can't seem to admit that women have needs equal or superior to their own. It's just that certain times of the month it's not desired.....this is when they seem to be the hottest. So rather than explain it's easier to have a headache.
2006-07-31 23:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm...... your viewpoint is a bit lopsided. I happen to be a passionate, giving romantic married to a cold fish, 14 orgasms to my whole one, as long as I can make it last, so don't even go there.... Generally, the one who has what the other wants is totally in control over who gets what and when.
2006-08-01 09:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it usually the woman's fault. probably lay there like a dead fish or gained weight. the same woman gets boring after awhile. that's why its good for a man to have several girls on the side. this will save the marriage.
2006-07-31 23:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋