What should I say to someone who is thinking about committing suicide?

Question

Two of my friends got in a lot of trouble at school for some sort of drug posession or somthing. One of their parents said that if she got introuble agian, they'll send her to this really wacked out boarding school near the area. At this thought, she said she was going to kill herself (literally) if this "punishment" is executed. The other friend however didn't have any harsh punishments except the usual disappointment from parents. She said that if the other girls kills herself, then so will she.

I know, I know. This has got to be the stupidest desicion of their lives and I hate it. I keep telling them that they are being really idiotic about this and its just a school punishment and new school NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. I also told them that if there was life after death, they would regret this so bad in the future. But it seems that there is literally no time like the present. How can I get some sense in to their dumb minds? I don't want anything to happen because I didnt stand up

Answer 1

For now, it appears that they are simply blowing off steam. Those who talk about it aren't usually the ones you have to worry about.

If they become very quiet around people, then you have something to worry about.

I wouldn't call them stupid or anything like that. They need support from their friends, not lame putdowns.

Let them know, they can call you anytime of the day. And the most important thing is to listen to what they are saying.

Answer 2

First thing to do ... when she brings the subject back again:
smack her really hard in the face. Knock her down.
Then, grab her and told her she is an idiot, be really piss and furious. Mean what you say.
Say how you feel about that stupid and inmature way of thinking, and how you feel for her. She is being a coward for thinking that way. Tell her life is all about problems and the fun thing is to face them... thats the fun thing.
Tell her you and her will find a way out if it, then go and get drunk and have a lot of fun. But keep and eye on her and be dominant.

Answer 3

I understand how you feel, the same thing happened to me. It's not somthing to take lightly, but aon the other hand, I wouldn't feel guil;ty if something happened. it is their lives after all. however, sometimes when I'm feeling down, I go to like, a playground or something, and watch the kids play, or I look at baby pictures or something enlightening, and there's something about new, pure life that makes everything feel just so special, even my own life. Perhaps you could try doing something that'd make your friends feel happy aboutt hemselves or something.

What you said sounds really caring. i know it's really hard to deal with difficult people, but trying to help may make all the difference.

try not to let them make you depressed either though.

hope this helps :)

Answer 4

I have a friend who wanted to commit suicide. I told him that if he killed himself, he was just going to make things a whole lot worse. I also told him how he was being a selfish a$$hole and not thinking about the people who love him and how he didn't give a sh!t about their feelings. Then my other friend started beating him up to get some sense in him. And he didn't commit suicide and now he's fine! You should try the same thing (not the beating up part) but just tell your friends how much you love them and you'll be hurt if they killed themselves.

Answer 5

Just talk them out of it some how. If you really care about your friends then you'll try your best to talk them out of it. Tell them that no matter WHAT the f*** they did the ones who care the most about them will be hurt for life if they do any STUPID thing like they are thinking. That's how my friends talked me out of it. It just might work but then again not everyone is the same right? Well good luck and I really hope it works.

Answer 6

Your two friends sound mad at the world- not dangerously depressed. Keep talking to them, buying whatever time it takes to get them over their current unhappiness & into their new situations. Be as supportive as to can to them- but don't let them blackmail you into siding with THEIR interpretation of events. Afterall, you are NOT responsible for their choices, -and if they don't live long enough to make the right ones, you did the best you could to help them see the foolishness of their ways.

Answer 7

Slap them in the face and tell them to get over their pre-teen or teen drama queen act. If you are going to kill yourself, don't bother tell someone else because they know you're just trying to get attention. It's the same with whiners. Both of your friends need a good b*tch slap and reality check. the world won't be over from this mistake. In fact, they should learn from it. Either don't do drugs, or try harder to not get caught. Take your f*cking pick.

Answer 8

~ This type of problem is one that even a seasoned adult would have trouble dealing with....no wonder you are struggling to figure out how to help.

This isn't something you can take care of. They need help from trained professionals.

This number is for the Suicide Hotline....I think that you should call and talk to them, and let them advise you on how to help your friends and what actions you should take.

1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE) 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK)
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

Answer 9

da ben dan just might be right.....I don't think its bad advice. Tell them that Life is not all about them. Perhaps there is someone else that needs them to be their friend next year. perhaps they will save someone's life next december. They will never know if they leave us now. They have a purpose or else God would not of wasted his time to create them. Tell them that.

Answer 10

First of all, if they say they are going to commit suicide, then they're really not going to. Sounds like they're feeling sorry for themselves and are wanting attention. Most suicidal people don't share that they're suicidal.