My husband is deployed in Afghanistan right now, and he worries about me a lot.
I have made some mistakes in the past; some were during our relationship and some were prior to our relationship. He says I seem like 2 different people, I think because he can't imagine the woman he knows and loves being as stupid as I have been. Some of the things I have done are sending out pictures online and being the "other woman" when a good friend's bf cheated on her (was a one time thing and probably the worst thing I have ever done in my life; he bothered me for months before it happened; I know I should have told her about it way before it went that far.) I think that with enough time he will trust me but I really want to help him feel better now while he is deployed.
He says that anything I do to show him I care helps, so I could use ideas for anything I can send him but I would prefer things that I can do to help him trust me.
Thanks!
2006-07-31 16:12:37 · 7 answers · asked by manda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the answers.
I am looking for really specific ideas. I already e-mail him 3-4 times a day but I'm wondering if I am saying the wrong things in the e-mails. He knew I was using myspace, but the other day he got to get on the internet (besides the army e-mail) for the first time in the 4.5 months he's been deployed, and he was upset about it. He won't tell me specifically what it was and I really didnt think I did anything wrong on myspace....
Should I give him more information about what I do online maybe??
2006-07-31 16:27:17 · update #1
do a lot of @ss kissing!!
2006-07-31 16:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Building trust once it has been broken between a couple is sometimes a hard thing to do and proving that you'll never do these things again is an even more adventerous task, but think about the things you did to get him to trust you in the first place. Add new variances to what you did before to build his trust. Show him that you care by being creative in whatever you may send him be it by snail mail or e-mail. These things could range from hand made cards with specially written poetry, to something home baked that will survive being sent that far. Make a recording of your voice telling him about your day or just the simple words I love you and only you. It could be anything just be creative and use your imagination
2006-07-31 16:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Bluerose_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with lilgracie. The best way to have your husband trust you is for you to be trustworthy. Try sending him lots of letters. Tell him what you are doing. Do not ever mention other men at all, no matter what the circumstances. Let him know how much you love him and how much you miss him, and how much you are looking forwrd to being with him again. Let him know that he is the only guy in the world for you. And always always always be faithful and trustworthy. Good luck
2006-07-31 16:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by mr_e_cowboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to keep being good. only time will help heal those wounds. nothing you ever send him or say to him will heal those wounds or make everything go away. he has to see it from you. he has to wait and see that you will be faithful and honest with him. it'll be a nice gesture to send him care packages but it doesn't change what has happened. you have to prove to him that you are devoted to him. and that just takes time. stay in it for the long haul and good luck.
2006-07-31 16:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one of those pictures taken. Like a glamor shot. Send him a list of qualities you love about him or send him one letter a day. Send him something like this.... I love you because...you are always there for me. I love you because...you make me feel good about me. Something like that. I hope this helps.
2006-07-31 16:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found a website which is similar to myspace, http://www.friendscyberclub.com/ this website has all the features of my space like the photo upload, view pictures and profiles, forum, chat, message board, also there is a leader board, just like this one, see your name on the leader board, and you can also get to the top of the leader board, this site has both the features of yahoo answers and myspace,
2006-08-02 22:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by dev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can email him do that alot to let him no ur thinkin of him. If your close to his mom go out with her alot so that way he nos you wont cheat with his mom there. make him cookies or sentimental stuff
2006-07-31 16:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by krayzeman32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋