Are you honest with your spouse about your number of sexual partners?

Answer 1

Honestly........he's never asked. And I have never asked him. But we both know that the other has been with several. If he was to ask, I would tell the truth. I'm not a big fan of lying.
The number doesn't seem too important, really. We are both very much in love, and faithful to one another. That is what matters most!

Answer 2

My husband has never asked for an actual number. We both had a past, which is where a lot of things need to stay. If something serves absolutely no purpose to be known in your present life why drag it in? You will both be much happier.

I don't feel it is keeping secrets from your spouse, just that it doesn't really matter now. I had an HIV test before we married and we are both faithful to one another. From my experience, if you are not fully prepared for an honest answer (and one you may not expect) you should refrain from asking the question.

Finding out your partner had X number of previous partners will only lead to more questions and end up in something like this, "Oh, well I guess Susie did that better, too!", etc. You get the picture.

If you are currently happy, leave it that way.

Answer 3

yes my husband and i are very open and honest about this. I think that everyone has the RIGHT to know. I have a friend that lived very "loosely", and thought it was only a number not to worry about. She was contacted over a year ago that one of the people she was intimate with went to prison and got tested positive for HIV. It's nothing to mess with. Would you like it if your partner wasn't honest with you? Sometimes there is more at risk than you might think. And isn't it worth the awkwardness of it to have a conversation and have you both be honest with how many sexual partners you have each had? remember too, that a man's sperm can stay inside of a women for 7 years!! Think of how many men are stuck up inside of you if you have been sexually active lately. Not a pretty thought.

Answer 4

If you are male you should never tell how many women you have been with. You should never tell if someone even smiles at you. You should act like any woman but yours just complety pisses you off and that you wish they would stay the hell away from you.

She will still not believe it and you will still have problems with her. Women never trust that I know of. NO matter what I did they would get mad. The woman at work that does the power ball thing for us is fat and old enough to be my mom and I'm in my 40's But my woman still mouths off about her. All women have been like this my whole life.

Don't say nothing is the best thing to do. Let them know it is off topic and you will not talk about it. Or get ready to be followed everywhere you go. Be ready to be watched when on the computer. Get ready to hear the bull when you shave.

Answer 5

I have a better solution instead of talking numbers...both of you go and get tested, then move on with your life.

He had a life and you had a life before you met right? Well, why is the number important, you've had sex with someone other than him and vise versa, neither of you is a virgin.... You each slept with someone other than eachother...

Trust me numbers only hurt, it is enough to say, I've had others, but you I married.

Be blessed!

Answer 6

She's not going to believe you anyway. So my rule of thumb is to subtract 10 from the real number because she is going to add 12 to it. Were you honest about your total?

Answer 7

I don't really need to know why you would have to discuss numbers, I don't care about the number of men my wife had, and she is not concerned with the number of women that I have had. To us, it just does not matter. If you are happily married, it should not be a concern for either of you.

Answer 8

Not no but _ _ _ _ no. All you are asking for is TROUBLE. What they don't know want hurt them. Thats my story and I'm sticking to it. Don't thing for a minute they are going to tell you the truth. But they will sure use it against you if you tell it. Be smart leave the past in the past.

Answer 9

We're in a slightly different boat than many people who have answered here, because my wife and I were part of a group of friends who hung out together through the last year of high school and all through college. She and I dated other people most of that time; it was about three years before we realized we had more fun together than with our alleged boyfriends or girlfriends.

And as tends to happen in groups of college friends, everyone's sexual escapades got discussed. So I knew who she was dating, and what was going on between them, because she would tell my girlfriend and my girlfriend told me. :-)

This had one interesting effect that I didn't really understand for many years. You know how it's common for somebody to have sex with your ex at least once after the breakup, and then you feel really terrible about it and have that be the thing that really closes the relationship? And you go talk to your best friend for sympathy and support because you need to talk about it to somebody you trust who will try to make you feel better about it? Well, when the woman who would later become my wife got back with her ex, and felt sleazy and used because of the way he treated her afterward... I was the friend she came to for support and understanding.

It took me about ten years to realize that the sick, hollow feeling I got in my stomach when she confided in me about having sex with him meant that I was in love with her by that time. I didn't know it at the time, or wouldn't admit it to myself, but it became really clear to me later.

That was almost thirty years ago, and I haven't stopped being in love with her...

Answer 10

Yea I am honest w/ him..He knows exactly what went on before him.....it should be something you tell the truth about if he wants to know. He needs to know if he is being compared to one guy or the whole football team.