He works full time we make decent money, and he goes to school full time. I have not been working for 8 days now and am looking for another part time job. Were not hurting but he walks in the other day and says he is going to apply at the movie theatre. He is a police officer and gets paid to go to school b/c he use to be in the military what is his point it really pissed me off and made me feel like **** b/c I am out looking for a job like crazy and the fact that were not in need bothers me, but he says it has nothing to do with me he won't even give me a chance to thrive
2006-07-31 15:37:04 · 18 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you have kids that you stay home with?
Do you do the majority of the work around the house?
Did you not like your old job and TELL him you wanted to quit and get a new job?
You do not give emough details.
2006-07-31 15:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress plays a big factor in relationships where one is working and the other is not. True you are looking for a job, but each day that goes by that one is not found, it ups your stress level and thus makes his stress level go up as well. He may not have conciously wanted to make you feel like crap, some things are said without really thinking about it. And let's face it in the world we live in today it's all about the money, even if we don't care about it. It seems one can never have enough, so this may be his thinking, even though you both are well to do, he may not think so. I'm sure once you get a job the stress level will go back down, just don't let it get to a boiling point to where you both explode on each other.
2006-07-31 22:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Bluerose_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels like you're not pulling your weight financially in the house, especially since he's working as a police officer AND going to school full time while you're looking for a PART-time job.
Do you know for sure that you're not hurting financially? Maybe the reason he's going to work in a movie theatre is because you both need the money and he's stressed about it. If that's the case, maybe you should get a full-time job at least until he's out of school then you can quit and find something else.
2006-08-01 02:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by orangemen2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God bless the child that has his own. What ever you do, get in a situation where you have your own money. My story is too long to tell but I will say Police Officers can be sweet & kind, they can also be cocky, arrogant, and selfish. They can have a bully mantality sometimes and when you're already feeling down, it can make you feel worse. Hurry up and get yourself together and make sure you are never in a situation where you would have nothing of your own without his support. Support your home but always have something set aside that only you know about......... Good luck!!
2006-07-31 22:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by divaxl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He works full time, as a cop, AND he goes to school full time? He is a bound to be tired, and stressed. And on top of that you are looking for a PART-TIME job? Get a FULL TIME job! Contribute more, so he won't be quite so stressed out! Hey, I've got it ... let's let him quit his job, so HE has a chance to thrive!
Look, you probably are a nice woman, and don't mean to come off as you did ... but you sound a bit spoiled. And these women who are telling you to relax at home ... they sound like mooches, don't get like them. Be independent, learn and grow, be willing to contribute an EQUAL amount of your time and effort to your mutual financial (and otherwise) well being, and things will work out in the end.
2006-07-31 22:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by NY southern tier gent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you start to apply for school on-line for a degree, and then get a job part time. That way not only do you not have to depend on him financially, but also you will have a degree so if your marriage does not work out you will do just fine with or with out him.
2006-07-31 22:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's so hard to understand guys. One minute something is okay, the next it's the worst thing in the world. I wish I could know what they are thinking, but I don't even think THEY know what they are thinking!
This has happened to me also. All you can do is keep looking for another job, sit back, and let it pass.
2006-07-31 22:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. wish i could get my boyfriend to get a 2nd job. we really need and since im partially blind its hard for me to find a job thats close to home that can work around me having kids. I would suggest to let him if he really wants to. Then when the money comes rolling in go to HSN.com and buy yourself some nice jewelry.
I wouldnt worry too much about it. He is probably just stressed out thinking about how he is going to support you and pass his classes. Try talking to him.
good luck!
2006-07-31 22:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it in stride, he may have had a stressful day and decided to take it out on you. Why people do that, I will never know. But as long as you are out there on the grind, don't feel bad; however, if you are slacking, then he has a right to be upset.
2006-07-31 22:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Awe-inspiringIntellectualDivaMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably does have nothing to do with you. I was working and going to school and it was stressful. Give him some space and things will come around.
2006-07-31 22:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋