What happened to people with manners?

Question

I swear, every time I go into Wal-Mart or any public place for that matter, it seems like I'm the only person who says "excuse me". I'm usually a pretty nice person and I smile at everyone out of work habit, I tend to be the person who will step aside to let somebody by, I say "excuse me" when I pass a person while shopping, I acknowledge people who are walking up the aisle and I politely move my buggy aside to accomodate the other shopper, but 9 times out of 10, nobody acknowledges my actions...sometimes people also are very rude and tend to never, ever say excuse me. Unfortunately, I've kinda let it rub off on me, and I'm not sure if it's all that bad, I just need some opinions....I call people out on not saying "excuse me" by saying it sarcastically to them after their faux pas...I've also said other choice words, but nobody has ever said anything back to me in defense of their actions. What AS*HOLES!

Answer 1

Careless ignorami... don't be pulled down to their level... manners are fast becoming reduced to the lowest common denominator (stress on 'lowest') out there, as everyone eventually wants to retaliate against the rude, crude, and crass behaviors with which they must deal on a daily basis. I've opened doors for people who could definitely use the "assist," and gotten so much as a "grunt" of approval or nod of "implied thanks." A few times, I thought it to be so uncivil that I cleared my throat as if to prepare to "honk a 'luggie' their way" and as they then turned my way I merely stated, with a smile, "Oh, that's okay, you're WELCOME!" in as a sarcastic a tone as possible.

Now I try to assess, by instinct, if I think they're worth the trouble. Try to keep things in perspective and actually feel sad for those miscreants devoid of social graces... they're the one who are never invited to parties as their company is boorish and self-involved. Just do the world a favor & keep living the example... you'll be true to yourself and who knows, maybe some of it may rub off on others who need it.

Though I certainly cannot fault you for "keeping it real." I think we need to do that sometimes too... sometimes, that's the only way they can "get a clue." Thanks for the question... it's a good one!

Answer 2

Heck, maybe it's just Walmart shoppers! Whenever I go there I end up with about 4 people in the same aisle with their carts blocking one side and them on the other side, looking for something or trying to control their kids. No one moves out of the way. No one cares if their kids are running up and down the aisle, yelling, knocking stuff over, getting in other people's way. I like the fact that Walmart is 24 hours. That way I can go after most people put their kids to sleep and it's not so busy and actually buy stuff.

Answer 3

I noticed the same thing as you. I especially dislike the people who stand in the middle of the aisle and refused to move when you say excuse me. And when they do move, they give you a dirty look like it was your fault or you are really bothering them. Have you noted how you have to be alert when shopping at Walmart, because if you arent, someone is going to run into you with a shopping cart. There a lot of unhappy people out there and after they take their unhappiness out on their kids, wife or husband, they try to bully strangers. Once in awhile you will meet someone with manners out in public, but it does not happen much.anymore.

Answer 4

Yeah wow thats a mouthful but you are totally right. ESPECIALLY in the ghetto in MIAMI FL. My goodness people here are so rude and disrespectful. I say yes please and no thank you and excuse me ALL the time and no one ever says anything back or smiles or anything. It amazes me! Seriously i try so hard to be polite because i want to be treated politley and nice too but people just dont give a damn. Oh well though...atleast that shows that i am ABOVE their bad manners and i can deal with it in a mature way by doing what i've been doing all this time...simply showing good polite manners.

Answer 5

"I call people out on not saying "excuse me" by saying it sarcastically to them after their faux pas...I've also said other choice words, but nobody has ever said anything back to me in defense of their actions. What AS*HOLES! "

..youre losing your manners.. your just not as far progressed as these other people.

Answer 6

It's a dog eat dog world nowa day's sometimes such as walmart it is a waist of time to be poilite if the person looks like or actully does have manners then yes otherwise it is simply a waist of time nowa day's as sad as it sounds

Answer 7

My! You are awfully thin-skinned. The reason you see so many rude people is that you are looking for rudeness. You are mistaking apathy for inconsiderate. It's not that people are being rude to you, it's that they do not care if you live or die. It just makes no difference to them, just as it makes no difference to me. Nothing personal, that is just the way it is. People die every day, and if they are near and dear to you, they will be missed. If someone in a distant city dies and they are not known to you personally, do you care?

The basic point is: Lighten up! Enjoy yourself. Relax. People are not deliberately being rude to you, you are just perceiving it as such.

Answer 8

U need to stay outta Wal-Mart. Somebody gon' get hurt.

Answer 9

I am experiencing the same thing. Continue to be polite even when they are not. I know that it really makes my day when people are nice to me, ESPECIALLY when I am aware that I don't deserve it.

Keep it up and have a nice day.

-Susie

Answer 10

Please move to my city. Lol. I love polite people. Actually where I live it's not too bad. Western Canada. People are generally polite. Keep trying, or there will be no polite people left.