I cooked a romantic dinner and dressed the bedroom in red lights had on a teddy. I did a lil dance for him in hi heels and i got nothing ! he just laid there and nothing happened. I cried myself to sleep that night and many nights because he shows me no romance.
2006-07-31 15:07:24 · 12 answers · asked by fancy_sweet_heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Damn, you did good! It certainly is not your fault. Ok, forget him for a while and begin to work on yourself. Make obvious improvements in every area that you can. Lose the weight, brighten your smile, get a new hairstyle, get a few new pieces of clothing that flatter your body, try cooking some fantastic meals that make YOU happy, Start going out with the girls a little more ( but don't cheat on your husband).
What I am saying is to seek out compliments from others for a while so that you know that you still, "got it". Flatter yourself for a while and feel your power. Eventually, he should catch on that something is changing about you. Let him initiate sex. Let him know in no uncertain words that you desire to be romanced. Shake and stir, then evaluate what you got for a man.
2006-07-31 15:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You did "some of the things" to have a romantic evening, but you're obviously unschooled and needing some training in the fine art of seduction. When you made your approach (wearing the teddy and doing the dirty dancin'), you didn't even bother to carry a platter of HOT WINGS into the bedroom. If you'll take time to study sexual pheromones, you'll find BBQ hot wings stimulate a man's glands thus creating arousal. You didn't say "what size that teddy was" or whether you complimented it with high heels, see through droors, handcuffs, restraints or if you even took the time to ask him if he would cover you in coconut cream pie. Men like sex but it's up to a "good woman" to learn how to inspire it! It's not supposed to all BE ALL WORK for the guy!
2006-07-31 15:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by hot_wing_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hate to see that this has happened to someone other than me. I too cried myself to sleep. I immedately thought it was me, only to later find out it wasn't about me, it was what was going on in his mind. He was tired, and had a really stressful day at work... Just think of it this way, no matter how much our man lights a candle, cleans the house, buys us flowers, if we have had a day from hell at work, the kids have been screaming all day (I assume, I don't have any), and your legs aren't shaved, and you are feeling fat....how likely are you going to be receptive to his advances.
Chalk it up to an expeirence in life...and move on.
Now, the other thing I have learned is this little secret....
Your man will feel more like being "the man", if he knows you see as " the man". Let him know that you appreciate him as the man of the house, that you are grateful for his masculine presence in your life. Let him know that You still find him sexy and desirable!
I hope this helps...trust me this little secret has made a difference in my relationship and I am not even talking sexually.
Be blessed!
2006-07-31 15:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by KittyCat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband may be bored. It's not a bad thing, when you've been with someone for a long time things become very repetitive. You just need to change it up ! Try changing your hair or something like that. Ask him what would turn him on ! As woman we do know a lot BUT we aren't mind readers !!!! Try new things and enjoy each others company, you only live once !! GOOD LUCK
2006-07-31 15:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need to stop crying and talk to him. tell him what all you did and how you felt when he just sat there. tell him why you planned the night. obviously there is more going on than on the surface. but the first thing you need to do is communicate with him. if you continue to have trouble perhaps you all will do well in couples therapy. and maybe then he'll listen. because you shouldn't have to go through all of that and get nothing out of him. you're deserve more than that.
2006-07-31 15:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, I know the feeling, only in reverse. He sounds like a fool, and it sounds like there's a problem (duh) that needs some type of resolution. You need to decide whether or not you want to make it work or cut bait. I'd suggest clergy or counseling. Dear Abby put it best: "Ask yourself, would you be better off with him or without him?" Personally, I'd kill for someone like you and will never understand a man that can act that way.
2006-08-01 03:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you have to make this more " spicy ".
Take some salt and pepper, add crazy glue and put this stuff in your vagina. He will stay there for a long time.
2006-07-31 15:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by George S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would've thrown a pail of cold water on him to see if he was still alive!
2006-07-31 15:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably thinking about someone else or he is bored with ur marriage sorry that isn't normal
2006-07-31 15:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by ocean currants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's old fart, contact me. I'm always here waiting for you babe!!!!
2006-07-31 15:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋