im 17 turnin 18 and im 38 weeks pregnant and my babys daddy left me and went to mexico (thats what his ex gurl told me) but i havent tslk to him in like about 2 months but he said he dosent want anything to do with me but do u think he will regret leaving his baby
2006-07-31 14:51:06 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
and he knows its his baby because he took my virginity and i was with him for 4 years and i really loved him or so i thought
2006-07-31 15:02:58 · update #1
no his ex isnt the only one that told me his brother told me he left his friends told me and i went to his house and it was empty and his family knows im pregnant everybody does
2006-07-31 15:11:03 · update #2
This is very hard and I am really sorry that you are going through this.
The answer to the question is unknown. The sad truth is that some don't. Me and my son's father live in the same city and he told me to change our son's name and to never call him again. I think of it as you don't deserve to have such a beautiful child in your life anyway.
I know it's hard but let him go and do what he wants to do. Nothing good is going to come his way and if something should, it won't last. One of the worst things you can do is not take care of what you brought in this world.
The thing that you have to remember is that no matter what: YOu are that child's mother and you have decide what and who is best for your baby. Maybe he's not the male meant to be in your child's life. I had to realize that and accept it. It was hard because I wasn't raised by my mother so I wonder how could a parent not want to raise their child. I'm thinking of moving to Florida soon; within a year or so. I figure that I would rather move my son to another state and blame me for his father not being in his life, than to live in the same city and he be a deadbeat. I don't want my child to know about that.
Listen, I'm sorry about this and I hope things get better for you. If you need to contact me, you can.
Don't base things on if he regrets it or not; do what you have to do and take pride in it! My 6 year old just told me I am the best mom in the world and his father will never know the feeling I felt when he said it!
2006-07-31 15:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by lala<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry this is happening to you.
Unfortunately there is no way to know what this fellow will do or think either two weeks, two years or twenty years from now, and so you can't plan on any guilty feelings bringing him back home any time down the line.
Don't be discouraged. Gather yourself a good network of friends and family who will surround you with love and support. Take care of that little babe the best way you can, and never speak ill of the daddy, or the baby will grow up to hate him.
Find a good strong male role model who can help you to raise your son to be a strong, intelligent man, or a positive daddy figure for your little girl, someone who is mentally and emotionally stable and not prone to angry outbursts or ugly, degrading speech.
If you haven't had a baby shower yet, put out the word to your friends -- in a tactful way -- that diapers sized 1 - 4 would be spifforific along with all the other baby doodads you'll get. I got so many diapers for my first one, I didn't realise what a blessing it was until I bought my first pack of diapers NINE MONTHS LATER!
Be strong, momma, and love that baby. You're a good mommy; I can already tell.
God bless you, and my household and I will be praying for you.
Love,
Rebecca
2006-07-31 15:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your question, yes i truly believe he will regret leaving his baby. However I do not think he will be back any time soon to take responsibility. If he ran all the way to mexico, then he has made his intentions quite clear!
I was brought up by a single mother, I did well have a university degree, am in a happy relationship and own my own business. Being a single parent is hard, but it is not the end of the world. Get in touch with other single parents, with a support network around you - everything will be just fine!
Good luck...
2006-08-01 00:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm sorry to say....he doesn't care, or else he wouldn't have left. He is running from his responsibilites. It is his way out of taking care of his child. I can tell you this: You can do it. It is NOT easy....but it's NOT impossible either. I've been a single mom for 11 years. It was so hard at first, but it has gotten easier. The hardest part for me was explaining to my daughter what happened. She does see her dad a little bit now, but when all this started, he was nowhere to be found. He finally owned up to the fact that he was a father, began paying child support, and agreed to an every-other-weekend visitation right. I'm not saying this will happen for you, but honey, you are woman. And we are Strong!
2006-07-31 15:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, he is a rotten one and you made a mistake by giving yourself to someone before you and he made a marriage commitment. which is so important because marriage is a covenant between 1 man and 1 woman and God.
This is the case of so many young people these days. You can see so much of this on this site.
You must get counseling and move on. You are a valuable girl and you are having a precious little one.
Respect your self and when you meet someone new they will love and respect you too. This will happen! God bless you and your baby.
2006-07-31 15:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's any bit of sense, then I would say no. For starters, unless there is a paternity test, he does NOT know for sure if it is his baby. If he never met the child, how can he form a connection to it? How can he miss something he does not know? Does a person that is blind from birth miss having their eyesight? No, they cannot since they never had it. They may wonder about it, but is it regret?
2006-07-31 14:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, WHY WOULD YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO GET PREGNANT AT SUCH AN EARLY AGE WHEN THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS OUT THERE TO PREVENT THIS. NOW AS FOR YOUR QUESTION. DID THE FATHER TELL YOU HIMSELF THAT HE DIDN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE BABY OR WAS IT HIS EX. IS THERE ANY WAY YOU CAN CONTACT HIM TO HELP YOU FINANCIALLY WITH YOUR BABY? HE LEFT TO MEXICO AND HASN'T LOOKED BACK OR CONTACTED MY ANSWER WOULD BE NO HE WANT REGRET IT. BUT NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO WORRY ABOUT HIM WHAT DO YOU PLAN TO DO. I PRAY THAT YOU WILL MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY. GOD BLESS YOU
2006-07-31 15:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Elani F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope guys that leave and dont talk to someone when they are having their baby aint worth a fli u are better off with out him and u have a baby on the way think of the baby and start living a life for him/her and not the ex and good luck
2006-07-31 14:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by spoyledmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will..im 15 but kno sum1 like that. my cusin had a baby at 19 and her boi left her he came back when the baby turned 2 and started seeing him on weekends. also pays child support or w/e its called. He mite not do what my cuzins sons daddy does but he shud at least come see the kid n ****. If he doesnt hes a jackass and only thinks for himself. hope for the best to you and your baby.
much love
<3
2006-07-31 15:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if he will regret it. but who else said he went to mexico. are you sure that his ex isnt jealous? you should talk to his family. why would he leave the last couple of weeks, that sounds strange. maybe you should contact the police and put a missing persons report out on him , and if he did leave, the police will find him and you will find out where he is so you can get child support.
2006-07-31 15:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Pussycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋