she loves him and he loves her and has a child togther. should she wait on him. he say they are going to get married.
2006-07-31 14:46:23 · 10 answers · asked by dj6292002@YAHOO.COM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should immediately make a decision by asking herself this question..." After 11years, am I worthy of being his wife now". She should at once put her foot down and demand that they become a husband and wife duo or get the hell out of there. She has put in her time by now and she should be honored with a wedding if he truly loves her.
If he does not respond then she should be willing to move on. She has already wasted too much time. After 11 years, it will only be a ceremony because they have probably experienced as much as any married couple already. If she stays in that relationship another minute without the benefit of marriage then it will be a life of bitter ...disappointment.
2006-07-31 15:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave it as it is. Some people do great without the formal papers. I know a couple who were married for 7 years, fought the whole time, divorced, got back together two months later and have been living together for 15 years. Every time they start to get married again they fight ...... they just do better without formal papers. I also have a cousin who lived with a man for 30 years before getting married by the state .... that is what worked for them. Your friend is "married" by just having a child and comitment with this man. They do not need permission by anyone or any kind of paper between them. I say it again....leave well enough alone.
2006-07-31 15:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is: Do you want her to get married or is it her that's being bothered by not being married after 11 years? Since she's still with him, it seems that she doesn't mind all that much. Maybe it's her that's not ready. Maybe they are BOTH happy with their living arrangement. But..if she truly wants to marry him, then she should sit him down, explain that they have a child together, and that she loves him very much. Tell him that she only wants him and she believes, that after 11 years, it's time!!!
2006-07-31 14:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow now after getting the milk for free for 11 years? He's never going to marry her because he sees no point in it. Of course he's going to say that he's going to marry her just to keep her content. Tell your friend she needs to wake up!
2006-07-31 14:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long long time to wait on a man! If they have been living in the same house for all that time then they are already common law married and she shouldn't worry!!
2006-07-31 14:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by lopezjri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's true that he loves her' And her him then there is something between them besides the child.Sounds like there happy . 11 years together says allot. Just leave things alone. Sounds like it's all good to me.
2006-07-31 15:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she should tell her boyfriend how she feels, if he loves her then he should propose, mayb they arent ready to get married, well if she isnt ready to get married should she should tell him how she feels and look him in the eye and ask him what he wants mayb she isnt ready for marriage.
2006-07-31 14:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow eleven year she should talk with him about the relationship movving foward after all it has been 11 years.
2006-07-31 14:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should happen is that you should encourage her to talk this out with him ... and then you should absolutely butt out.
2006-07-31 16:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by NY southern tier gent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a long time.
2006-07-31 14:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋