does your wife consider your point of view in an issue you are discussing(arguing) about? when she has an opinion, i consider it. when i have an opinion, i feel she doesn't consider it. it seems as though she shuts the door and that's it. her way or the highway.
i'm being vague on purpose. the principle is what i need to express.
now, for those out there thinking, he's a wimp! no...not in the least. i can put my foot down like godzilla but then i'm going to make her cry and i'll end up trying to make her happy by giving in so she she'll feel better. also i've got 2 children who will see my example and this really isn't the way to solve an issue.
why is she so 'bull-headed' and why can't she see she's acting 'bull-headed'?
yes, i can walk out and divorce it and just go find somebody else. i could but saving my marriage is what i want to do.
how do you express your opinion with satisfaction???
2006-07-31 14:38:41 · 7 answers · asked by csyniqal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people have a hard time putting themselves in the other peoples shoes. I mean to a large degree they are very self centered. You will find this trait in most first born people. The only advise I can come up with at this time is to keep trying, don't get mad or upset, but rather keep calm and continue to address issues and stating your side of it. Granted it is not going to be easy, however the more upset you are the more ground you will lose. If you feel like you are losing control of yourself then drop the issue temporally. When the time is right revisit the issue. If the issue is not that important then drop it and let her have her own way. No big deal it just makes for a happier home life, because we both know that if she isn't happy then nobody is going to be happy. Good luck, I am sorry I couldn't be more help to you
2006-07-31 15:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try changing your reaction to her mood. If you don't react, how can her anger mount? My husband has a terrible temper. When he is ranting and raving, I think about doing a few extra sit-ups while I am at the gymn, how good I feel as I get in my car after a good work out. I concentrate on the positive in my life and when he takes a breath, I say, your right, I was stupid to not put the dog in the back room. I have to try to remember everytime I leave.
If you agree with her statement, after all, maybe she is 50% correct, make her feel good. Even if she dosen't return the admiration, you have done something positive for the relationship.
You can't change a person's mind. .But it is within your right to state your point of view.
2006-07-31 21:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a wife on your side. I think that your wife should try to consider your opinion if you show her the same respect. Maybe you should talk to her when you are not already involved in argument. As a women, I can tell you that I'm not all that receptive when my guys has pissed me off. And, applause to you for trying to be a good example for your children. More men should follow your example.
2006-07-31 22:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by just4funyall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you realize expressing your opinion to satisfaction just means stating it ,even if you don't think shes listening , but shes standing there letting you yap , that's your satisfaction , your getting to express your opinion.
satisfaction doesn't mean your going to change her opinion .
now if you want to come to an agreement with two different opinions that's a whole nother story . should make both parties have to bend a bit so it will work . Not always one give give give and the other take take take .
2006-07-31 21:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keeping your foot down is a good idea, but depending on the situation it is also a good idea to agree to talk about it later, like just agree on two or three hours from the time, give both of you to calm down and think, then talk about it like adults. that has worked for me, neither person will get anywhere when one or both people are mad or angry.
Most people frown on this, but I would also try talking to a counselor, doesnt have to be both of you. it helps if you just go and listen and talk about everything, if you cant talk to your wife about this then you need to talk to someone about it that can give you creditable advice.
2006-07-31 21:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by penguin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your foot down please....you are answering your own question....wouldn't a child cry to be picked up ...if you pick them up every time they cry?
2006-07-31 21:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will speak for my husband on this. He would say, "yes." ;)
2006-07-31 22:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋