Would restoring Chivalry help restore the father in the family?

Question

If more boys, (especially those with absent fathers) saw men opening doors for women, giving seats to women, and by any means being kind, and caring to women, would they be more likely to treat women with greater respect when older? Would they be more likely to be faithful fathers and husbands? Would there be less single mothers? For the sake of restoring the father, should society, (including the FAMILY, school, and the media) promote chilvalry?

Answer 1

Yes, but I have to say that it's not just the men's job to teach their boys this.

I also would like to point out that for the last several decades, women all over the world have become obnoxiously overpowering, demanding not only equal rights......but declaring how much better they are than men, how we can do anything they can do, blah, blah....you know the story. Women have become the head of their households, and have pushed many men right down to the point of submission. So now.......here we all are complaining that men are wimpy, men aren't' chivalrous, men can't take charge.......when women have done everything in their power to knock all that out of them and prove that "WE DONT NEED YOU TO OPEN OUR DOOR. WE CAN DO IT OURSELVES."

So I wonder.......what did we expect? And in the meantime.......women who CHOOSE to stay home with their children while their husbands "bring home the bacon" are frowned upon for not being ambitious enough.

Yes, I think chivalry should be brought back, and should be taught across the board........but at the same time, that will never work as long as we send our boys mixed messages. "don't' treat a girl like she is incapable of doing anything for herself.......but still be kind to them, open doors for them, be respectful without being TOO respectful" I
think we created monsters.

Answer 2

Well, it definately couldn't hurt boys who will eventually become men, to see other men treating all people with respect. Unfortunately, chivalry has little to do with having a Father "stay" in the home. If a woman must remain silent in order to have the once civalrous environment of the past, then she is again reduced to mere slavery for the sake of appearences. I think a better approach would be a strong work ethic & having men & women each contriburing 100% in order to make a marriage work. Modern Day society seems to promote a 50/50 mentality in relationships & this leaves an imbalance that no man OR woman should have to fulfill! Marriage should be promoted as a life-long obligation, rather than a trial-by-error that leaves children to fend for themselves in one parent households. People who cannot or will not commit should not be bringing more children into their own personal he*l. The only way to slow down this "trend" is to bring back a sense of shame to a "shameless" society & I feel it is too late for this route to return to the City Streets! Perhaps if we just started out with some good solid ACCOUNTABILITY for a person's actions, then we could show our children that mistreating others has consequences & enforcing the punishment to fit the crime just might deter (shame) people into thinking twice BEFORE they knowingly hurt others. Our society tends to give far too many chances for the wrong reasons, thus making a mockery of accountability!

Answer 3

Yes, I think it would be helpful. It might not solve all of society's woes, but having polite, well-trained young men who treat women with respect can't be a bad thing.

Answer 4

Oh, my lord, yes! The American-nationwide lack of manners, courtesy and respect of persons is both symptom and cause of the societal breakdown that began in the late '50's.

Answer 5

Absolutely!

Answer 6

Yes, I think teaching chivalry to our little boys would help, but we also need to teach manners to our little girls. Have you ever heard how little girls talk to little boys? Geesh. It's amazing what they find acceptable nowadays.

Answer 7

Oh another complaining woman on this site.