When I was a small child an older male relative molested me. This seems to be a problem immense in scale, but it remains shameful to its victims. Naturally now I would never assign any guilt to a helpless child, but still the stigma remains and I seldom tell anyone I know. Who can relate? How can this kind of abuse be stopped?
2006-07-31 14:35:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you all... it's difficult to select one answer. Anne, Custom, Angel, I invite you to write to me if you'd like to.
2006-08-03 14:57:38 · update #1
I totally relate to you. I wish I knew how this could be stopped. It's really sad that so many children have to go through this. When my sister was 2 years old she was raped and killed by her mother's boyfriend. It happened way before I was born but I always felt this emptiness knowing that I had a sister that i will never get to know. I was molested by a older cousin. I know so many girls and women who are just like us. I wish I could just hug them all and tell them that they are not alone.... I... I feel your pain. I am going to go back to school for social work because there is a lack of people who really care and understand.
2006-07-31 14:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The abuse cannot be stopped throughout the world. It can, however, be prevented with your own children. Many victims of sexual molestation feel that it is their fault. They feel guilty even though they did nothing. Many of the feel guilty b/c they did nothing. If the abuse was never really aknowledged and the abuser was never punished, this could be one big cause of your problems now. Not dealing with a problem is the worst possible thing you can do. For those of you with children, prevent this from happening to your child. Talk to your children!!!! Tell them it is not okay. Do not allow your child to go to a friends house if you do not know their parents very well. Be paranoid. I used to make fun of my mother b/c she was so paranoid, but now I have 3 children and I understand now. Do anything you have to do to protect your children, even if it makes them mad. Someday, they will understand!!
2006-08-03 15:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had a good answer , i was molested by a male cargiver and when i told my mom she just said "oh thats silly" and left me in his care again! how can abuse be stopped well i never leave my children in the care of a man ,exept dad. that means uncles , cousins ect! dont set young girls up. teach children about good touch bad touch and never going anywhere alone with a man.
2006-07-31 21:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by customclean95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, i took a abuse class for my job. It was a class on how to report it and all, It is amazing how high it is in my area alone. More people need to step up. The class told us if you belive it is possible than you should report it
2006-07-31 21:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing we can do is educate our children at an early age what is acceptable behaviors from adults and what is not. We also need to provide safe feeling enviornments for children to come and report it.
2006-07-31 21:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused by my stepfather, I told my mother, she told him and he beat the **** out of me. Needless to say she let him get away with it, she divorced him a few years later but not for my sake. My mother and I don't talk much now, I don't see how any woman can stand by a man who does that.
2006-07-31 21:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate the abuse goes on in your mind your whole life. Stricter laws and reporting should be made easier.
2006-07-31 21:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋