Ok...here is my question..I love my husband but I think about haveing an affair?

Question

I love my husband but I often think about haveing an affair is this like something evury one goes threw?

I have just latley been thinking about it i am not that dum i wont go out in do it i just think about it...

Answer 1

Then you don't love him, you were not ready to be married, and please get divorced before having an affair.

Answer 2

Is there someone you have in mind already? Maybe you should never have gotten married in the first place if this is something you really plan on doing...
Think long and hard before you make a mistake that can never fully be forgiven. Its natural to wonder what else is out there from time to time (the grass is always greener...you know the rest) the key is to understand that it is all in your head. Remember your vows, your husband and your children (if you have any). An affair doesn't only affect you.

Answer 3

Not sure what kind of answer you are looking for...biblical you are coveting...which is a sin so therefore wrong. But realistically it is common. To think that just because you are married that your spouse is always going to be IT for you is dreaming. You are always going to find someone else attractive. The reason you are thinking about having an affair is because you have allowed your relationship with your husband to wither. It's time to reconnect with him. It has to be a priority. Make the time. You have to find a way (and he has to help) to rekindle that fire you once had whether emotionally or physically. How to do that is for you to figure out. Don't feel guilty...things become commonplace and routine and loose their excitement...spice it up and the love you had will return.

Answer 4

You may think you "LOVE" your husband but if you did, then you wouldn't be thinking about being with another man. You may LOVE the idea of being with someone like him, you may LOVE the security that your marriage gives you, but you probably don't LOVE this man. If you are going to endulge yourself in something so immature as an affair, do your spouse a favor... leave him. If you "LOVE" him, you would at least recognize how badly this would hurt him if you went through with it. One well known side effect of love is having to do things for that person that you may not want to do. In this case.... its to be monogamous (spelling?) or... to give up your spouse because you aren't ready to settle down. Be mature and do the right thing... instant gratification is just that... think about what will happen a year from now... what happens if he finds out. All that hard work in your relationship was tossed aside because you want to screw someone else. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think most everyone fantasizes about other people besides their mate. can't imagine why it's alright for men to wonder what it's like to be someone new and not OK for the female. Enjoy your fantasy life and keep it in prospective. You wouldn't leave your hubby for this guy. Probably because you know your husband is the one you really love. Just face the fact that you have the hots for someone else and use that feeling to enrich your sex life with your husband. may find you love him even more and he will definitely find you more attractive and sexy. Don't have an affair with the other guy - have one with your husband. rediscover each other. The other guy will soon be history in your thoughts.

Answer 6

From a male perspective, women like to have that spark re-kindled every once in a while. Women love to be actively pursued by men, romanced, wined and dined. Basically making them feel like a lady. Then once engaged, there is that romantic adventure and the breathtaking purposal. We won't even dwell on that awesome honeymoon. Ah then reality kicks in. There kids enter our busy lives. Our lives become a mudane routine. Men love this routine, women however strive to be that young lady they once were. The activly throw hints at their spouse. Then they begin to dream of the masked man. The masked man that gives them mystery, passion, intrigue and romance. But most of all, that man allows them to be that lady that has been buried for many years. Hence this is how the affair is initiated.

Answer 7

You love your husband but you think about having and affair,maybe you should talk to him and see what he says and see if you can have an open marriage,with another couple that is have the same problem......and see how that works and if doesn't work just maybe yall may need to see other people..but lets hope for the best.....

Answer 8

i dont know about everyone but i have done the same thing you did and then thinking of how it would be if i did get divorced, i figured out that would be a bad idea cuz sometimes you get into a slump in your marriage and you feel like your just doing a job not a loving enjoyable marriage.
but with most slumps they go away and your doin good again
i say ride it out and if it get to the point where thers violence or alot of fighting amongst the two then maybe but not before you see if its just a slump in the marriage.

Answer 9

I don't think you really love him if you are considering an affair....I don't think this is something everyone goes through. I don't think about cheating on my husband. If you want to have sex with someone else, how can you say you love him...I just don't get it...

Answer 10

It depends upon the circumstances... does your husband provide you with the necessary relief you need? Are you looking for something that "HE" can not give you or won't? Are you looking for the excitement?
I would love to find a woman looking to have an affair and I do love my wife...my reason is strictly physical. After her operation she lost all sex drive and it hurts to perform.
I guess you would say I would be looking for a "FxxK Buddy".

Answer 11

There is nothing wrong with thinking abut having an affair. It does not mean that you do not love you husband. i think that it is normal to think about sex with another. That's why we have an imagination. I think that everyone has a fantasy once in awhile.