When my mom talks of lesbians (She's ok with gay men), it is always something negative. The says that it is nasty and other things like that. I am gay but she does not know it. I want to tell her but with her attitude, I am afraid I will get kicked out. I have a twin sister and she is straight and she also talks negatively about lesbians. I am more butch like and most people just assume that I am gay. My mom dosen't like the way I dress and yells at me alot for it. Sometimes I think she does that because she dosen't want me to be gay and to let me know that being gay is unacceptable. I want to tell her that I am gay to see if she will stop yelling at me but I am afraid of getting kicked out since I am 18. What do yall think I should do?
2006-07-31 14:03:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My sister and I are bout to go to college (the same one). I do plan on moving away after freshman and make a new start somewhere else.
2006-07-31 14:14:51 · update #1
One way to test the waters a bit is to make up a fictional lesbian friend. Or make a real lesbian friend.
Then next time your mom or your sister says something about lesbians, say "hey that's not a nice thing to say, my friend (insert name here) is a lesbian and she is not like that at all. Do you know any actual lesbians?"
It gives you a cloak so you're not putting yourself out there as much, but it is also a way to call them out on their prejudices.
2006-07-31 18:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's ok with gay men, she's probably ok with lesbians but not her sons or daughters! My mum was that way,she accepted me but we did have arguements. Sometimes she still tells me that she;s not ok with my sexuality and complains that her brothers and sisters have grandkids and she doesnt. I was 25 when I let her know. If i was in your position though its best to let it be for awhile, you still are not in any relationship yet, so whats the point ? I'd go to college, graduate,u can always date girls in the meantime, settle down, when the right girl comes along, then u tell her , take care and goodluck ,been there so i know what u're feeling !
2006-08-04 19:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by maltese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a steady job and a place of your own, as well as a vehicle if you don't already have one. Once she has nothing on you, then you're free to tell her. Good luck, and remember that there are people out there that you can be your rock and a second "family" if your genetic family does something drastic like disown you.
2006-07-31 21:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even think about telling her anything, call her on the hypocracy of it being ok for men but not for women. See what she has to say about that. How long till you're out on your own? If it's not too long, it might be worth the wait anyway, especially if you're unsure about her reaction.
2006-08-01 22:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, earn a wage, rent an apartment, and party. It's your life, don't waste it on your mum, after all she needs the space in the house more than you do.
2006-07-31 21:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move out before you tell her anything...sucks to tell, and she disowns you...then u are homeless as well....i think them bashing lesbians is her way and your sisters way to get a reaction out of you...i think they suspect ur a lesbian, and bashing is their way to see if it is really true. when i told me mom...she said she already knew, and said that mom's just know about their daughters.
2006-07-31 21:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you she'll embrace you not kick you out, maybe at first she'll over reate because you are her daughter and it's going aginst her views of society but it will cool down, I'm sure!
2006-07-31 21:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋