how do i change the way she thinks of her self i tell her everysingle day that shes beautiful how do i change her mind about her self? or will this "phase" pass?
2006-07-31 13:47:36 · 14 answers · asked by JoJo 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Well, there are a number of reasons why.
Negativities from elsewhere?
Perhaps she is seeking attention?
Maybe she doesn't get enough attention, or is ignored?
She might really have low self-esteem, but you can't change that.
There are a number of questions you need to ask to find out the cause of it. In my opinion, you're a sweet boy for telling her every day she is beautiful, and even sweeter for even caring. For that, I commend you greatly. I don't see how she can not believe you. Remember, tell her this: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
If all goes right, either both of you will find the cause of it, or she will gain the confidence she needs, and you two will live happily ever after. It's possible!
2006-07-31 13:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by cadence_lost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to take her mind ooff her appearance. Ask her to do something together fun where she won't have her mind clouded up in her insecurities and while at it, I'm sure she'll think back to see how insecure she is and she just has to look at you and see you smiling and just seeing you're having a good time, and I'm sure she would be too, and just ... that would help begin building some confidence in her. It'll take a while though but try not to bring it up so much and tell her she's beautiful all the time 'cause it would be obvious that you're just trying to make her feel better in that moment (even if, without a doubt, I believe she is in fact beautiful). Say it every now and then but not too often -- otherwise, she might take it like it's just a pity compliment, etc.
2006-07-31 13:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by zailew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you to make herself feel better. Don't fall for her traps. You can not change her. Only God can change people. Pray for her to have more confidence if she doesn't, it is time to move on because you can waste a lifetime battling this addiction which is just like any other addiction. You have been feeding it by telling her this all the time. Talk you her about it. Tell her what I told you. It is time for her to grow up and for you also. Tell her God created her the way she looks and if she is not satisfied than she needs to talk to Him not you about it. This might sound mean to you, but it is not. It is the kindest thing you can do for her to get her out of her pity party.
2006-07-31 13:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change her mind, this is her battle. i know how she feels, every woman does!!! it's part of being a woman. this may just be a phase, but if she starts eating less or binging and purging you need to get her some help asap!!! why don't you subtly complement her and not be over baring about it!! if someone compliments me a lot in a short time frame i become suspicious of if they really mean it. why not drop a note in her locker every morning that is a list of everything that you love about her (make sure that it's different every time!!!) hope this helps!!! I'll be praying for her!!
God Bless
2006-07-31 13:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be there for her! I think it's great that you compliment her everyday, but sometimes some women are just insecure with themselves no matter if people tell them differently. One day she'll realize that she's beautiful just the way she is. Maybe you can tell her WHY you love her, and why you think she's beautiful. That'll make her feel better. Good luck :)!
2006-07-31 13:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jolynne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has low self esteem and cannot believe what you tell her because whe thinks otherwise. She needs to become more sure of herself, but you cannot change her...it must come from her. Try to do a few things to see herself in a different light.
2006-07-31 13:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has been sort to enable me stay at present.the following day won't in any respect come.So I would desire to be happy approximately at present.And once I awaken on the morrow,the marvel of being alive is fairly friendly. Have a superb day.
2016-10-01 08:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,all you can do is all you can do.No one but her can change her mind and even though it seems like you're making progress she will have to be satisfied with herself to feel beautiful.By the way only like 5% of woman are truly satisfied with their selves.Regardless of what they say. All you can do is what you have been doing and maybe she will find a way to make herself happy.
2006-07-31 13:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by newyork=premed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling her,and continue being her friend.If,when some one else says something flattering to her point it out that others said 9she looked nice,her hair was cute or a piece of clothing or jewelry was nice) you get it,just some people need more positive re-enforcement than others.
2006-07-31 13:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur girlfriend is just not confident to her appearance. Sometimes i feel like her too. Even though my friends told me i'm fine i'm fine but still i feel myself so ugly and so on...tell ur girlfriend that when she looks on her ownselves, it will like that. Means u will feel ugly but other people looks difference. It is because we always look on ourselves in the mirror. Tell her that people and ownself looking are different.
2006-07-31 13:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋