How do I have a better relationship with my wife?

Answer 1

Of course, being open and honest blah blah blah would make your relationship better. But this is what some wives really want...

1. I would help alleviate her burdens--

Take on some of the chores around the house without being asked and have a great attitude about it. Do this on a regular basis. (This earns my hubby 'getting-laid' points!)

I would also be that ear she needs when she needs to work off her frustrations, without giving her advice--unless she specifically asks for advice. Just having my husband's non judgemental, loving sympathetic ear makes me feel as if he has 'my back' when I am most frustrated.

2. I would suggest taking up a project, hobby or activity that you both can enjoy.

For example: Remodeling the bedroom? Making beer? Latin dancing? Tennis? Mountain biking? Kayaking? Losing weight together? Body building? Wine tasting or hunting? Hot Air Balloon Rides? Climbing pyramids in Mexico? Whatever you both would like to do and discussed it but never did anything but talk about it.

3. Dating

Some of the best 'dates' I had with my husband was going to Lowes and making plans to remodel a room or the yard. We attended those free classes together and spent hours looking in books and making plans. We spents a year or two brain storming cool ideas and eventually we made our dreams come true. Going through the process of making plans and bringing it to fruition was awesome. I feel that remodeling was a huge undertaking and that we can accomplish anything together.

4. Be your best self at home.

At one time, my husband did amazing things at his work and then 'clocked-out' and did not put much time or energy in our home. I was so jealous that his job claimed the best of him and we barely got leftovers at home. He has learned to leave a little bit of himself for us at home. So he is involved with chores, meal planning, activities around the house etc.

5. Do something for her from time to time that requires thought and planning that she would value but not expect.

The greeting card holidays are corney (Valentine's day) But just doing something really cool on a Wed afternoon, (after doing the laundry) is really neat. My husband loaded our bikes and we grabbed quick bite and biked this beautiful trail near our home. I loved it.

Answer 2

Sir, I don't know you but I will tell you this, it starts with communication. This word us thrown around so much and it is better said than done. Practice makes it better. Use it with coworkers and everywhere you go. Before you know it, you will be using it with your wife. You won't obtain it over night and sometimes u may forget to use it, but do the best you can. Once you get better at communication which involves more than selected listening, you will begin to hear whats troubling your wife without being offended or taking it personal. Once she see;s u communicating in a healthy way, she will catch on. Next sweety don't continue to take her for granted. Compliment her on the small things: such as cleaning the house, taking care of the kids and her appearance. You will see how quick she shapes up. Now remember to take some time out for just the two of you. This is so important and never go to bed mad at one another.Never!If you follow these four easy steps you are on your way to a healthy marriage. By improving your communication she will tell you what her needs are.

Answer 3

I have found that intimacy builds the relationship. I'm not talking sex though. One of the most intimate things I do with my wife is pray with her and pray for her. Also, never let sarcasm into an argument and never ever say something if you will regret it later. Hurting your wife one time will undo ten moments of intimacy. Give up the remote control, let her pick the movie every other time. Let her drive but let her control the AC and radio when you drive. Every now and then you have to surprise her. If she works, take her some flowers at work. Tell her she's pretty when she doesn't expect it. Hold her hand in public. Open doors for her. If those tips don't build your relationship then nothing will.

Answer 4

spending time together will help as long as u do something u both enjoy.Me and my hubbie have a great relationship. But we have not all ways had dat. We been married 18 years and the 1st 8 was not the greatest. But now it is. How u ask? We talk everything out and talk about everthing. We have be come best friends by doing dat.We help eachother when something is bothering us and we there for eachother when ever 1 of us needs someone.The best friend u can ever have is ur partner. And it can bring u closer then u ever thought posable. trust me on this 1 it works. Cause she will see how much u not only love her but how much u care and want to be there for her when she needs u. Hope dia helps u some. good luck and i know u can do it!

Answer 5

All of the above.
Listen to her and when she's sad or crying never ask "what's your problem."
Spend time sitting and talking to her.
Tell her she looks beautiful once in a while.
Come up behind her when she's in the kitchen and hug her and kiss the back of her neck.
Don't buy her flowers (unless it's her thing) -- buy her something she eye's in a cool store she loves -- and do it when she's not there.
Tell her how awesome she is and what a great person she is.
Dance with her in the middle of the living room, even if the kids are running around.
Make a date with her once a week. Even if you have to lock the door to your bedroom to keep out the kids -- order pizza and a movie and watch it in bed.
When you argue, always say your sorry and that just because you argued, doesn't mean your love for her goes away.

It's all the daily little things that make a relationship last and work. Tiny little moments that she'll remember forever .

Most importantly, be honest with her. Tell her YOUR feelings and show her how much you trust her.

Answer 6

Ignore Gangstadad, that's a good first step. It's nice that you asked how to have a better relationship with your wife. You can start by asking her more questions about her day- look her in the eye when she tells you about it to show that you're listening. Tell her a few things about your day. Once a week, tell her that you're taking her out, and treat her to dinner. If she cooks, offer to help make dinner with her. Turn off the tv, and go for a walk, or a jog if you're into that. Join an activity together, like swimming, or volleyball. Hug and kiss her every morning and night. If she does alot of the cleaning, take on a few of her tasks. Make love more often. Cuddle more, hold her hand more, and ask her opinion on more things- and take what she says into account when making decisions.

Answer 7

remember that, A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

Answer 8

Be nice to her. Make sure that you go out at night at least once every two weeks to adult places. Go out early for coffee once a week just so that the two of you can talk before you start a hectic day. When you want to make love, seduce her as you did when you first started. She will never turn you down. Take her side when it comes to others, no matter what. (You can tell her in private that she was wrong) Kiss her hello and good by. Hold her hand when watching TV.

Answer 9

Spend quality time together doing things.

TALK. not just about the kids or work... about your dreams, your aspirations..... take time to reconnect.

Go out on dates.
My hubby and I try to go out just the two of us once a month.

Ask your wife what SHE wants and be open to new ideas. Maybe she would like ballroom dance lessons, or to join a gym together. You may be suprised at what she would like.

Do something unexpected,
send her flowers or a card, buy her a gift certificate for a spa, or do something extra around the house *just because* a little thoughtfulness goes a long way.

Answer 10

Sit down and talk with her, find out how her day was. Give her a back rub, buy her flowers, make her a candle light dinner, let her know what she means to you, give her a big bear hug and whisper in her ear that you love her, get the bathtub ready for her. There are so many things you can do, be creative.