Help me!! I'm a 14 yr old girl and i don't know what to do. My male teacher makes me uncomfortable?

Question

My male teacher seems to be too cosy with me. At first it was just grabbing me at the waist from behind and making me jump. But know hes grabbed my breast. no-one has seen him do these things. I know I should report him, but i don't think anyone will believe me

Answer 1

I know it's hard, but you need to find the courage to report him. He has no right to be touching you at all, he is taking advantage of his position in authority.

Report him to anyone and everyone you can, your parents, other family members, other teachers, even a friends parent. or even g straight to the police if you can.

Make sure that until you do find this courage that your never alone with him, confide in a close friend. t sounds like he's only doing this when he thinks he can't be caught him, you can make sure that it doesn't happen by asking your friend to stay with you when you feel threatened.

Answer 2

I hate to tell ya but, statistically, two-thirds of females have to endure an experience similar at least once during a lifetime. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

You should definitely advise your parents of the situation and let them know how you intend to proceed. Having been in a similar situation during high school with a fellow student, and having reported it to the proper authorities at school and having absolutely zilch done about it, I understand your apprehension in reporting him. YOU NEED TO FIND YOUR VOICE. Anyone touching you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable needs to know exactly how you feel immediately.

I know it's especially tough when it's an authority figure committing the act, but there is nothing wrong with pointing out that his behavior is unacceptable:

The next time he so much as lays a hand on you, anywhere, turn around, and no matter who is around (the more folks, the better, actually), look right at him and say in a clear voice, "I WOULD APPRECIATE YOUR RESPECTING MY PERSONAL SPACE AND KEEPING YOUR HANDS OFF ME." You have (1) made it clear to him and others around you that you want the behavior to stop and (2) done it in a cordial and respectful manner.

You can't rely on counselors or office personnel to resolve this for you, and depending on where you live, they may expect you to have taken some steps to resolve it, yourself, first. Don't fall into the mindset of being a victim. You have a brain and you have a voice and you have rights; exercise them all.

Sometimes guys like this prey on young ladies, and other times they are just clueless. I seriously urge you to FIND YOUR VOICE because this is not the last time in life you will need to use it.

Answer 3

This person is in a position of authority and being an adult or in a position of authority as a teacher does NOT mean he can do whatever.

Just so you know, no person-by LAW- may place 1 single finger on any other human being without the other person finding it okay.

Do not worry or be embarassed, you will be believed by those who care for and about you.

If you think that this teacher has ever done this before, wouldn't it have been right if that student (or neighbor,niece,co-worker) had reported it so you wouldn't have this query?

SHUT DOWN YOUR COMPUTER AND GO TO A TRUSTED ADULT!

Answer 4

i had something just like this in my school, the teacher was doing things just like those. he would give girls massages, look down girls shirts, give girls nicknames, and do other suggestive things. we all finally got up enough courage to tell the principal. he had to leave the school, and was put on trial. some of my girlfriends had to go and testify there. you should really ask some of your friends if this teacher has done anything weird to them. then you have to go to another teacher, counselor, or principal and tell them what is happening. it may make you feel uncomfortable but just find someone you trust and let it all out. this man is perverted, and should lose his job. i hope this helps, and know that other people have been there too!! if you need to talk, just send me a message and i will help the best that i can.

Answer 5

optimistic i hit upon it demanding to appreciate a mushy lady instructor's motivation to sexually include a 14 12 months previous boy (even if i will properly understand the boy being rather chuffed !) .... .... a lot, significantly better sturdy than a 22 12 months previous male instructor who falls for the advances of a "understanding and mature" 14 12 months previous lady pupil ? adult males have it drummed into them that children is proper (look into each and each and every of the porn web pages boasting merely criminal 18 12 months previous fashions !) .... women persons are anticipated to have an interest in adulthood .... a perverse international ? wager instructors haven't any excuses as they recognize the age of those they instruct ? yet i somewhat imagine instructors in this concern choose help .... no longer imprisonment :-(

Answer 6

This may become a serious problem if you don't stop it now. Do not put yourself in a situation where you are alone with him. Always have friends around you.
Make sure you have witnesses if this happens again and then tell him to stop it NOW or you will report him. Take him to the principal if you have witnesses and follow through on your threat.
Should he try to victimise you go straight to the Principal and file a complaint. Take care hun.

Answer 7

Yeah... that's sexual harrasment... child molesting... go tell someone. Any responsible adult will do. Another teacher, or your mom, or the principal of your school. If things keep on progressing he could even rape you. Watch out kid! And in the mean time try not to be alone with him, have a close friend always nearby when you have to be around him.

Answer 8

1. Tell your parents.
2. Tell the police.
3. Tell your student counsellor.

You might not be the only one this teacher is getting cosy with. TELL SOMEONE!!!!

Even if there's no proof the authorities will probably be keeping a closer eye on him.

DON'T abide this behavior from ANYONE!

Answer 9

You have to do something right now!! Tell anyone a friend, you parents, a teacher you are close to, the principal , the guidance counselor, or any other adult you feel close to. Please dont let this go on. They will believe you if you tell them. Its sexual harrasment what this guy is doing. Dont ever let yourself be alone with him and next time he tries something dont just let it go stop him, scream or runaway. He probably feels like he can continue doing this because he knows you wont do anything about it so thats exactly what you have to do. speak up. please

Answer 10

The first thing you should do is TELL YOUR PARENTS. If they are not around, then you should go to a trusted adult and make them aware of your feelings, so you will have support and someone who can watch him.

Keep telling an adult until someone listens, and you can also go to your school counselor confidentally.

Don't wait until something terrible happens and also, make sure you are telling the truth.