why do some women use their children against their ex partners?

Question

do you think this is really sad,my partner has two children by his ex and she also lives with someone else and has two other children with her man,she used to let my partner see his kids but as soon she found out he was seeing me she stopped him seeing them,i have never met her so i don't know what her problem is,he hasn't seen his kids in two years.

NEWTON H - what? i'm not gonna leave him,he has tried everything but his ex lives 90 minutes away by train and has now changed her number,and her new man has threatened my partner aswell,he isn't the bad one here.

Answer 1

Children are the only sufferers here,I had to take my ex to court 9 years ago to solve this problem and got every thing i wanted ,i employed a good female solicitor and explained i do not want a slanging match by paper work i just want to see my child.

I was respected for my calm attitude and won my case with ease by being calm and truthful,explaining that i held no hatred for my ex and that she was a good mother apart from her attitude toward me as a father.Don't give up go to court and resolve it good luck.

Answer 2

Jealousy. She is jealous that he is happy and I know at least 3 different parents going through the same thing. All I can say is that when the children grow up they will look for you, write a letter to your children and post it to your own address. When your children come looking for you give them the letters.

There are loads of children out there looking for their biological parent. Make sure your name can be found easily, put it somewhere on the net, anywhere that when a child looks it can find you.

I am sick to death of women that use their children as pawns - it's so selfish and mean - how can anyone deny their child the love of the other parent. Our English courts aren't doing enough about it and I think it about time they sat up and opened their blasted eyes.

Answer 3

What a horrible woman she is for doing that to her children, why will these woman who do this never learn that its the kids who are suffering and not themselves, she sounds like a control freak to me, so basically if your partner dumped you he could see his kids again, play her at her own game and pretend that is what has happened, go out of the way for a few weeks at the time your partner see his kids, your partner gets to spend a bit of time with his kids again, then have him introduce you to them as someone new, she needs to get a grip and see what damage she is causing to her kids and your partner, get your partner to take her to court so he can have rights to his kids, she needs to grow up and very fast.

Answer 4

Hi. You don't become intelligent just because you have children..Perhaps she had children for the wrong reasons (benefit etc) or maybe she just wanted to try and tie the bloke in.. Tell you what... I bet she didn't have a relly god qualification...these women drive me cray. So bad for the kids yet men still fall for it and we pay for the benefits...Your partner could go to courts for access if he wanted to, but to be honest you'd have to shoot me to keep me away from my kids so what has he been doing for 2 years? Do you really want to be with this kind of 'man'? Good luck! (plse think about moving on?)

Answer 5

I think some other woman especially separated couple or divorce with children are insecure, that's the reason why they're scared to let their children see their father so their children will not see their faults!! I am mariied and my husband has two children they used to be close to their father especially the daughter because his children is living with him since his ex-wfie left him, and when he met me and got married, his children started being close to their mother which in fact they despise their mother before and now they are being disrespectful to their father and me, which is the fact that the ex-wife of your partner is just insecure and scared that their children will be closer to you and compare your personality , which is really really wrong.

Answer 6

ok all bible thumping aside, how does the toddler in good shape into all this? no remember how plenty you and the different female would look after one yet another neither of you will be a father.You as quickly as had emotions for adult males what in case you do back?I dont comprehend too many lezzie couples that have stayed monogamous for fifty yrs.that's a multitude and probability is itll worsen yet so a approaches as he is going merely tell him you have been a closet dyke and your finally comming out of the closet.tell him it could have got here approximately with ANY guy.

Answer 7

I can understand what you mean, I live with a woman who is the same to some extent, she seems to use them to keep control over her ex. Uses them as things such as if "I dont get my way you wont get your kids" and they jump! My ex started slowing down my time after I started dating again, but thats what the courts are for, alot of trouble but worth it in the end

Answer 8

She is obviously unbalanced and jealous, probably thought he could not find anyone else to stay with him, if he pays maintenance then he should go to court if he really wants to see them. However the children may disown her when old enough for doing this.

Answer 9

My wife left with my son, she ran off with a pig. My son, people said he was my shadow, he cried in my arms the day she took him away, he told me that he loved me and wanted to stay with me. That was 5 years ago, she would never let me speak to him and now she has disappeared. The last thing she said was, 'you can write to him through me.' I knew that she would never give him my letters. I've written him a book and would love to send it to him, but he's gone. I'm missing him more and more and I cry for him.

Answer 10

Men do it too. Have you not read any of the stories where the men kill their children to punish their wives or exes. They would rather kill them than let the woman have custody.