I truly believe that my friends and family will alienate me. My family is so closed minded and my friends are homophobic. I don't want to freak everybody out. I feel as if i should tell them though. I don't want to be hated by my family and shunned by my friends. I am an adult, so do i have to tell them, and how should i?
2006-07-31 12:55:06 · 14 answers · asked by Valkyrie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be loud and proud!, if they see that you are truly happy then they will eventually come round! It will take them time to come to terms with the adjustment but who cares right ??
You live your life for you! noone else !
Good luck
2006-07-31 12:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya don't HAVE to tell em. Honestly, it's not automatically their business what ya do. Your sexuality's your own, and should'nt be dictated by what the family thinks. If ya DO decide to tell em, I'd wait till the topic of sexuality comes up on it's own, then obliquely mention the fact.
Having a dramatic "come out" scene may work for some, but it's silly to say you HAVE to do it that way. Doing so focuses ALL the attention on you, and the subject. Kinda forces it into being a bigger scene than it has to be.
2006-07-31 13:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think that the most important thing is to be true to yourself. It may seem like such a scary thing, but don't you think that eventually your family and friends will appreciate your honesty ? I'm just trying to think of how i'd feel if a family member came to me with the same thing ... yes maybe initially i'd be upset, but I do know for sure that once I come around, i'd have alot of respect for the person who admitted it.
You sound like a strong person. Go for it. You should be able to live the way you choose to.
Good luck !
2006-07-31 13:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly a lot of people are homophobic bc they are confused about their sexuality and thats the only way they know to deal with it........but your family loves you and eventually they will get over it. My girlfriend told her family and they hated it at first, were very upset but once they got to know me they love me now and they are pretty much ok with it........it just takes times but if u keep hiding it when you finally do come out it will be worse bc you are hiding it like there is something wrong with it.........be proud
2006-07-31 13:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family is closed minded - don't tell them. They don't need to know about it. Live your own life without publicizing it. Especially if you're bi, there's no way they can find out.
2006-07-31 13:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by a b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, it is your choice. But telling your family the truth will help you to be more open around them and true to yourself, which will make you a happier person.
I have linked a web-site from the HRC that talks about coming out as a bisexual person. It's good.
http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out_as_Bi/Coming_Out_as_Bisexual.htm
2006-07-31 17:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like what Shorti said, just come out with it. If they don't accept you, that's their problem, not yours. My friend came out and said that she was bi and you know what? I love her the same as I always did. If they are your real friends or if they really care about you, I promise that they will understand.
2006-07-31 13:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Erinn*Loves*Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, there's always the really fun way. "Mom, I have something really important to tell you... I only have six months to live." Observe her crestfallen countenance, then perkily say: "Kidding; I'm just bi." I've never tried that one, but if you do, let me know how it goes. It sounds like it would be fun.
2006-07-31 14:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone feel as though they have to *come out*? If you find a girl you'd like to date and it's serious enough that you want people to meet her, then introduce her as such. Otherwise, just keep status quo.
2006-07-31 13:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Paige 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. If they alienate you, then they were never really your friends in the first place, were they? People who care about you will care no matter what your sexual orientation.
2006-07-31 12:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋