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I do everything that involves housework (and Im okay with it until he makes more unnessary work) Like I ask to take out the garbage, and he does after being asked 10 times. I ask him to clean a plate after he dirties it...after I did all the dishes, he just puts it in the sink, so I have to clean it.
He says clean the house better (his friends say its the cleanest house he ever lived in) he used to have dog **** and dead cats in his house as a kid and teen because his mother was a pig.
He leaves his dirty underwear on the bathroom floor...after I do all the laundry.
He puts his cig butts out of the front porch, I ask him to stop...he doesnt.
Maybe I sound like a nag....but guess what he drives me to it.
I am only 25, and I already take care of a toddler.
Why dont men do their part, are their any who do????

2006-07-31 12:54:34 · 16 answers · asked by Sheena H 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

16 answers

You need a new man. Their are plenty of us that are more then willing to chip in.

2006-07-31 12:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0 2

You answered your own question - whether you realize it or not. Men do what they were taught as little boys - his mother never taught him how to clean - or how to perpetuate cleanliness. He knows he likes it better when it's clean.

And honestly? It does no good to nag - most men I know have this ability to completely tune out nagging. What I find works better is to sit down and have a conversation with him. Don't nag. Don't shout. Talk. Say things like "When I come to the kitchen and find a dish minutes after I finish cleaning the kitchen, I feel..." whatever adjective you feel. Tell him how the actions make YOU feel... and try your best not to say things like "you never" "why can't you" "why do you always".

As far as your question on whether ANY man who cleans up after himself - yes there are many many guys out there that do more than their fair share. However, you are not with them. Decide on what you are willing to deal with and what is just too much to handle.

2006-07-31 20:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Leeeeeesa 1 · 0 0

Men are not lazy or stupid by no means. But like in the simpsons it is easy to take the remarks so women do all the work.

House work is very exausting. No offense, but sounds like you married a pig. Look, you are a very nice lady because you are only asking him to be considerate towards you, you are not even asking him to help you doing the chores which he actually should be doing.

2006-07-31 20:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0 0

I've been married for almost 5 years and my husband is the exact same way and I have nagged him to no end but it doesnt change a thing. I have although, dated men in the past who were very clean and tidy, even more so than myself. I see how my husband was brought up though, his mother catered to his every need and now he expects me to do the same. Good luck, it sucks!

2006-07-31 20:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

sounds like he has worked very hard to train you. Why do you clean up after him?

Lets see...his mother was a slob, he lived like a slob before - if only there was a sign or two that he may actually be a slob before you married him, but alas, how were you to know?

And, all you do now is clean up after him all the time, allowing him to be a slob *still* - you would think he would wise up and start cleaning up after himself - how else would it get done... hmmmmm. boy this is a tough one...i will have to think more on it...

2006-07-31 20:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0 0

I'm not a lazy man by know means...I'm an ER nurse that works 20 hrs of overtime a week and on my days off, I have dinner waiting for my wife when she gets home. I do the laundry and clean. Sorry you feel that your bf is lazy, but some of us men contribute more than others.

2006-07-31 19:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by tim b 2 · 0 0

Your man has lost his respect for you.....we are not all like that, in fact you have almost described my wife to a tee...If anything gets cleaned up around my house I am mostly the one to do it....there goes another Sunday.....but I put up with it because otherwise it will be another cold day at home if I say anything....I put up with it for now anyway....someday I will have enough and find a good woman that knows what it takes to love and be loved. Good luck to you and let me know when you have had enough yourself.

2006-07-31 20:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by boo_a_boo5150 1 · 0 0

My husband, thank God, totally does his part and then some. Don't deal with it now, you can find better and I think a lot has to do with how you train them and what you let them get away with. Don't deal with it life is too short to spend it trying to get hi, to do what you want, just move on girl.

2006-07-31 20:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 0 0

Get hold of his credit card and hire a maid service to come in weekly.

I guess, moving out would be a good option, too.

2006-07-31 19:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

We "good" wemen spoil our men and then they get carried away and LAZYYYYYY I have been married to long i guess and when you spoil your man to where he will not even romance you then it is time to give him a reality check make him do without you for a while and he will see how much you do for him.

2006-07-31 20:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by fancy_sweet_heart 2 · 0 0

In general... men are lazy... and we women should never put up with it... that is why I like to keep men seperated from my living space!

2006-07-31 19:59:42 · answer #11 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 1 0

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