My friend has been having marital troubles for approx. 2 months now. The woman who is cheating with her husband has a child that attends the same day care as my two children. So, I run into this "skank" almost everyday. This morning, I met up face-to-face with her in the hallway - and she smiled at me & my kids as we entered. I simply ignored her - when prior to two months ago, I used to say hello to her. I can't stand the sight of her and given the proper time and place - I would like to tell her off. I am loyal to my friend.
2006-07-31 12:51:13 · 22 answers · asked by TML ♥'er 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
O.K. I heard from my sister and another mutual friend about the skank and dog-cheating husband. My friend TOLD me (actually confirming it) that it was this woman who was messing around with her husband. Just to be clear - I do not condone this behaviour. Her hubby is a male-whore.
2006-07-31 13:13:43 · update #1
Loyalty? I'm sure you've already told your friend that you know her husband is cheating with this woman. So now why are you angry with the woman. Your friend needs to deal with her husband. You should probably stay out of it. I am not saying that you should become friends with the woman, but at least you can treat her with respect. Remember she has no commitment to your friend. It's your friend's husband who is wrong.
2006-07-31 13:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the exact same way. If I thought someone was a skank or whore I would treat them so bad. Then I realized that we all have it within us to be a skank or a whore. I used to say I would NEVER EVER cheat on my husband and anyone that did was a whore. Well, just wait....some day you might be at just the right place, time, or circumstances in your life that you do the exact thing you were so judgemental about. You may not believe me now, but just remember these words that I've said. Also, try to find it in your heart to feel sorry for this girl. You have no idea what sort of upbringing she had or terrible things that have happened to her that have made her the person she is. I may be sounding like I'm condoning the behavior. I'm really not...I just can see things from a different perspective now. Take care!
2006-07-31 14:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid the situation of a 1-on-1 with the 'skank'. Does your friend know that the 'skank' is the other woman? This is a touchy situation especially if children are involved.
2006-07-31 12:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business and you have no clue why people cheat, he is participating and really she is just looking for a boyfriend. Be a friend and stay out of it. It will backfire on you if you get involved cause chances are they will both turn on you if you do. You don't have to have an opinion. Calling people names and being a snob is only hurting you. She could care less what you think so get on with your life not hers.
2006-07-31 12:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's something I had went thru that with my bestfriend and a lot of conflict arised with me knowing that her boyfriend was cheating on her because he was my cousin ,and he would bring the other girlfriend around and i wouldn't talk to her because my friend went thru so much with him so I didn't hang around him anymore and I would take her out to met other guys and feel pretty cause he had a hold on her. But I have no respect for a women to cheat with a married man !!
2006-07-31 13:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not being a snob. That is preparing her for when you tell her that you are not an admirer of her lifestyle or "Be careful what you sow." Do not be bitter when you speak to her. Just let her know in so many ways that you are not a fan of her actions and make sure that you do not do it in front of the children.
Boaz.
2006-07-31 13:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Boaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then just wait outdoors where the kids wont see or hear and let her have it. Be sure to keep your voice down, though, or someone will call the cops. Also, don't threaten. Or she will call the cops.
And don't forget him when the opportunity presents itself.
Cheating is awful. Why can't people just say, "I don't want to do this with you anymore." and then move on.
2006-07-31 12:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be loyal to your friend..by giving her support... a shoulder to cry on and understanding. but you are not in high school... as far as the other woman is concerned. you need to mind your own business. this is your friends marriage not yours. also she may be your friend..but it takes two to make or break a marriage. she is not perfect. you are taking this too personal... and if they get back their relationship somehow..and decide things are going to be okay. you are going to be the first person that loses. do you think he is going to want you around.
2006-07-31 12:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you call yourself a friend if she doesn`t know about it!!! This happpen to me once and my friend told me the day it happened. This guy has been my best friend since I was 12 years old. I`m 43 now and he told me that my ole lady hit on him and tried to get him in bed. He even set her up for me. That`s a friend!!! Watching your back!! If you haven`t told her then your no friend!!!
2006-07-31 12:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Society accepts this behavior and therefore it has become acceptable, like teen pregnency ( "Well, I don't want to make her feel badly. "Why not?. She is wrong, as is he.) Just shun her. Societal shunning worked for centuries. We have forgotten the art. We would have a better society.
2006-07-31 12:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋