With 13 girls! they broke up. He went to Iraq, where he spent a yr. He claimed to have had a life altering exp seeing so much death & destruction on a daily basis.They began to write, talk on the phone. He seemed to have changed & grow up. he came home in Jan 2006, they married this June. Now he has been accused of cheating, by the girl he was supposed to be seeing. There is some truth to her story, but no concrete proof. This girl is 17, he is 25. My daughter has been informed but does not believe it. The person who became privy to this info has no reason to lie. What should I do, if anything?
2006-07-31 12:51:04 · 11 answers · asked by Lorrie A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your daughter is an adult and unless she asks for help you really can't do anything.
I have adults kids too. I have to put them in God's hands and pray that if they need me I will have the wisdom to know what to say and do.
2006-07-31 12:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can really do, its all up to your daughter. You can talk to her, maybe get her to do some checking to prove this girls is lieing, when in all honesty, we all know the real reason why she should check into it. And if she does stumble onto some "concrete" then lets just hope she boots his behind out the door!!
Once a cheat always a cheat.... Once the trust is gone, its hard to get it back!
2006-07-31 20:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you don't want to see your daughter get hurt, she is an adult and won't listen to anything you say. Sounds like the guy is a loser, and a chronic cheater. His type will never change. If you want to do something drastic, hire a private investigator and show your daughter the proof. I think she should leave him.
2006-07-31 19:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of the way for now - there's nothing you can do. Just be ready to comfort your daughter - the time will come. Hopefully, she will not get pregnant and add to the problems. She still young so it will work out for her in the long run. Just don't judge her or her decisions - be able to empathize.
2006-07-31 20:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tough one, I don't know what you can do as a parent... I guess the main thing to do is to let your daughter know she has your support - if she needs a shoulder to cry on. But everything else she will have to figure out on her own I'm afraid. Sounds like she has some tough learning to do.
2006-07-31 19:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Support your daughter in whatever decision she makes. She is the adult in her life now. Not you. You may be older and wiser, but... the choice is hers. If you take any other road, you'll be resented by everyone. Even if you're right. So; let her choose, support her choice, and catch her if she falls.
2006-07-31 19:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How your daughter handles this situation depends on how she was raised. If she has an ounce of self-worth she would dump him in a heartbeat.
Final advise: STAY OUT OF IT!
2006-07-31 20:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she need to go have have talk with this chicks parents then dump the dog
2006-07-31 19:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it.
2006-07-31 20:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. she really should dump him.
2006-07-31 19:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋