well me and my baby's daddy split up and i have know my best friend for like 2 or 3 years but he wants to be with me and im not so sure. and also he use to be my baby's daddy bestfriend also
2006-07-31 12:38:47 · 32 answers · asked by ♥Becky♥ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
sounds risky
2006-07-31 12:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No person can tell you what you SHOULD do. Should is a term that is absolute, and that's not a good thing. I can tell you some options, and some information that might help you make up your mind though...
1) Some of the best marriages, and happiest couples that I know were good friends for a long time before they ever got together. Being friends is a great basis for a relationship. The only time this is not as true is when you are younger, teenagers give or take, as "love" at that point is typically more about hormones and infatuation than anything else, so it can be fleeting and dangerous, and can hurt friendships quickly.
2) There are a lot of things that go into a relationship, obviously being friends is great, but also being physically compatible, having similar long term goals and needs, etc. If you're looking for a real relationship with someone, these things should always be discussed before things get serious.
3) Don't be afraid to "try things out" as long as you both feel that you are mature enough, and secure enough in your relationship as friends, to not be "wierded out" if you don't work out as a couple. It has been my experience that a lot of people can still be good friends after a break-up, so long as both people are mature about it. This really comes down to: if you don't think you guys could be friends if you ended up breaking up, then that is something to consider.
There's some things to think about anyway, good luck.
2006-07-31 12:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by rainsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you should not. A bestfriend should never be dated because it just spoils such a great relationship once it ends. It seems perfect when u think of a bestfriend as your boy friend because u think he knows u inside out and all but trust me it a totally different relationship when they become ur partner. I dated my bestfriend for 5 years and when it ended it was the worst feeling because i lost someone i loved so much and lost my bestfriend. I regret it till this day that i wish i had not made that move and i would have still had my bestfriend. So honestly i would not reccomend it and to top it all he used to be ur baby's father aswell. I would say be with someone that even after something doesnt work out with the two of u atleast u wont loose your bestfriend. But ultimately it is your choice so make it wisely and Good luck !!!!
2006-07-31 12:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl..... Girl..... Girl..... All you would be looking at is TROUBLE....
You would loose your firendship with you best friend, and then you would be concerned with the worry of you babys daddy... how is he going to take it. I have been down this road, and all it does is ruin what you have built with your friend... If I were you i would just stay close friends, and see what he feels, or what he wants to do, and then that will give you a better position for yourself... you need to be asking him some questions and find out where he stands on all of this, and then make your dicision then...
good luck...
2006-07-31 12:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. Too complicated. Find another venue to meet guys that don't know your baby's daddy.
2006-07-31 12:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Leia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to weight how much this friend means to you and also consider the type of relation your friend has with your baby's dad. In my personal opinion dating your friend means putting yourself, your friend and your ex in a really uncomfortable position, but hey, "the one that doesn't risk doesn't earn"
2006-07-31 12:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by loredotcom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said she said, Who cares? do you like him and respect him? If you can say yes to both of those questions go on a date. If it doesn't work out, I would think that you would still be friends.
2006-07-31 12:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could end up like my bestfriend and married to her ex-husbands best friend.
2006-07-31 12:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not sure then 'no' don't do it. You both have to be in the same place in your mind for it to work out. If you hare having doubts, it's not worth it!
2006-07-31 12:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You guys will be fine.
Relationships come and go.
When you are 25, you wont even know this guy anymore so dont worry about "wrecking" your friendship.
Have fun.
2006-07-31 12:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Girlfriend has been my best friend for many years. I raised her babies till they've all grown up, and she helped mine..Worked for me, might work for you..Good Luck.
2006-07-31 12:41:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋