I recently got out of another 2 year relationship. My last one was 2 years also. Am I just addicted to the "honeymoon" phase of a new relationship? What can I do to stop this cycle? I usually find a new gf before I end it with the last one. I know this is not right or normal. Whats wrong with me? Any help and advice (not insults) will be greatly appreciated. I want a real relationship and want to end these rebound relationships! I dont want to be alone and maybe thats why i dont end the last before I start the new one?? Help!! Thanks
2006-07-31 12:32:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do have a new gf already. I started a relationship with her before I ended the one with the ex gf. Bad, I know!!!
2006-07-31 13:24:51 · update #1
thanks to all for your help. I really appreciate your responses and thank you for not insulting me.
2006-07-31 13:27:26 · update #2
I think you really do need to be alone for a while to break the cycle.
You seem to get so wound up in doing the relationship without really knowing if they are the right one or not ...to find a new partner while your with your old partner is always easy ...new always looks better, maybe just try some time alone and dateing lots of people before you commit,it sounds exhausting ,just a thought ...hugs!
2006-07-31 13:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bearable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are but you have been programmed well. Not an insult but an american fact. Men are raised like women needing relationships to not be alone. When in truth what you are feeling is the need to roam as a man. You are fighting nature for nuture. Men throughout history have not been monagamous.
I know the modern world wants to tell yuo different but its not true. I will even give you a little hint to this. (Men and Women do not really like each other) Its hormones playing you like an instrument. I mean what is so attractive about a woman. Its all in your chemistry. The point is, so is your need to roam after the challenge is gone.
If you really want to be with a girl long term then I would suggest screwing your brains out. I know you think being with 3 girls is a lot. I am talking like 30 or 40 women. It will clear out all your illusions about women being different and mysterious and open you up to actually being friends with a chick and staying with her. You will still have the urge to go after other girls but your experience will tell you that is not better or different with another girl. There is no substitute for experience. Go get them tiger
2006-07-31 12:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Joe R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may need to take time off for yourself, without any girlfriends at all. you might need the time alone to get to know yourself and what you want better. when you are with a girlfriend in a relationship, it's hard to know where you end and she begins. spending a year or more by yourself makes you more self-confident, more self-aware, and more self-loving... and those are extremely important when it comes to successfully loving someone else. does this make sense? p.s. what you are doing IS normal, lots of people have this go on in their lives. so don't freak out. just put long-term love on the back burner and go do some of the other things that you are passionate about for a while instead. hope this helps.
2006-07-31 13:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't found your soul mate yet and that's something that you can't force. Timing is everything....I'm convinced of it. That perfect someone will come along and you'll understand at that point why it never worked out with anyone else. I think in the meantime it's important that you treat your current girlfriend with respect and dignity and when it ends try to end it in a way that is equally respectful. Maybe you should try to be single for a while, too. NOT being in a relationship isn't all that bad sometimes. Surround yourself with friends and family.
2006-07-31 12:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a GWM and I had a 2 yr relationship a 6 month relationship a 7 year relationship and now a 19 year relationship..it took a lot of turns in the road to get where I am now...keep driving.
2006-07-31 13:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a long term relationship, you should examine what the girls that you've been dating have in common. Then consider what you want to look for in a partner. Many of us keep dating the wrong type person over and over again.
I hope you find your soul-mate, she is out there. I found mine five years ago, and I'm grateful every time I wake-up next to her.
Love,
Tammi Dee
2006-07-31 13:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 14 years with my boyfriend, we live together I'm not going to lie to you we have our ups and downs, but i think before you start a new relationship try to spend a period of time alone, lets say a year, they say that it takes half ot the time you spent in a relation forgetting it, so allow your self to be alone, rediscover your self, take care or you, pamper your self, get involved in activities you like, travel, feel the air, and when you feel detoxified from the last relationship try to star a new one, you see the difference,,,,,, and please this time don't search, let the guys approach to you....... and be very wise in your selection, select the one that fulfills your needs............ try it.....
2006-07-31 13:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by snorlax72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is a long time. If you can last 2 years, you can last 50, you just haven't found the right person yet.
2006-07-31 12:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he develop into the right individual you does no longer lose interest of him. in case you do not imagine you want him adequate to dedicate i does no longer worry if he's a chum, you does no longer choose to break your friendship.
2016-11-27 01:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋