I've had the hardest time finding friends or a woman since everyone I meet can't have a good time unless drinking is involved, to any degree. Is there something wrong with me for wanting a non-drinker circle of friends?
2006-07-31 12:32:02 · 13 answers · asked by theres_never_a_plan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No, and people that put that much importance on drinking are sad....there is so much more to life!
2006-07-31 12:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by SadToday22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear you.
fact of the matter is that drinking engrained in our culture. everything involves drinking... random outings, sports events, weddings, dinners, even church for christ's sake!!
A lot of people drink because it helps them forget their problems (not true... only helps for as long as youre drunk!) and others because it allows them to do things that they wouldnt otherwise do (like talk to strangers).. which is a big social thing. being able to open up and talk to everyone makes people feel like they "know" so many other people, and that makes them feel powerful and connected.
Personally, I suffer from random bouts of vertigo, which induces all the unbalanced, uncoordinated symptoms of drinking that lasts for hours, and i cant say i enjoy it. I have no problem speaking my mind either, and when I have drank, i usually end up more quiet than anything else. So drinking really has no benefit to me that I can see.
As a college student however I would like to throw in a final two cents and say that drinking is a HUGE statement about manhood, or at least its made out to be. How much liquor you can handle is interpreted to say something about your personality, which is completely preposterous. The kind of liquor you can afford to drink also conveys a little bit about your income and your "status" if you will. People who can afford to get drunk on heinekin are seen as richer than those who have to chug down terrible natty lights.
I suppose you could argue its also "just something to do"... but thats just a copout i think.
Ive had the hardest time finding friends or girlfriends that dont drink... unsuccessful so far. Though im not surprised: trying to find a sober friend at college nowadays is like looking for a wife in a whorehouse. Im hoping that it gets easier after college. I think one of the biggest problems is that a bar is a gathering place for random social interaction. There really is no place like that for people who prefer not to drink.
2006-07-31 19:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People think drinking is "living it up" because they can't find enjoyment in this life with the boring hum-drum routines that they go through that don't seem to have any purpose other than paying their bills so that they can do it some more.
I used to be like that before I found out that I could have a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ and that my life really did have meaning, not just for today but for all eternity.
Why don't you go to the local Christian church and listen to the gospel message and join the family of Jesus? You'll find a whole lot of people who don't need alcohol to have a good time and enjoy life!
2006-07-31 19:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't know how to have fun without it, possibly because they are too inhibited. I go out with people that drink and don't drink and people can't tell any difference. When I have people over for parties we often don't have alcohol because one of my close friends is a recovered alcoholic. People still have a good time. So if you show them a good time without it you will have non-drinking friends. Just don't try to control their behavior or make it sound like people that drink are all bad. You could become Muslim or Mormon, they aren't supposed to drink at all.
2006-07-31 19:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I drink all day and all night and I don't have any friends. Why don't you join a Church group or hang out in coffee shops, you should be able to meet non-drinkers there. Drinking is a life-style it has nothing to do with ones ability to have good friends.
2006-07-31 19:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. It's just not always the easiest thing to do. I feel the same way, that it shouldn't be necessary to drink in order to have a good time. However, I don't think you should necessarily mark people off just because they drink. If they're wild partiers, sure, you don't need that. But if they drink in moderation, not really to get drunk, you could still have fun with them if you're sober.
2006-07-31 19:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I know allot of people that act like they have to get drunk to have fun. I stopped hanging out with them. I don't understand what is so fun about getting drunk and acting stupid or throwing up and feeling like death warmed over the next day. I do know what that is like and it is not fun. I don't even drink any more either. Anyways, no there is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you can find some friends at church.
2006-07-31 19:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is acutally refreshing to hear of someone other than me with that trouble. I think that people are drinking away their sorrows. They haven't yet figured out what they are supposed to do with their lives. Who knows if they keep up all the drinking they might miss it anywhys.
2006-07-31 19:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by *Ashley* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only people that actually KNOW that drinking is NOT living it up
are recovering acoholics. You are smart to look for sober friends.
2006-07-31 19:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by hmjulien3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. It's sad that people just dont know how to have fun without the influence of some drug or alcohol in their system.
2006-07-31 19:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ahmalya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋