Why is it so hard to be a lesbian when you're 16 years old? I'm having a difficult time with it. When did it get easier for all of you? I have a girlfriend right now, and it's great, but it's just so hard. I guess I just need to get out of this oppressive town?
2006-07-31 12:23:02 · 11 answers · asked by sds247x3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's hard just being 16, nevermind being a lesbian. Things will get easier. Go to an open-minded college, then get a job in an open-minded city. Surround yourself with people who respect you and don't look down on you.
2006-07-31 12:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by theobromo77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one :its not a sin no matter how many dickheads tell you so!
two :being 16 is hard enough
three:everything gets a little easier with age
four:try to be happy and dont try to rush anything you have so much time ,enjoy being 16 it will all come right in the end .
five :leave town if its depressing sometimes a change is as good as a rest
be happy babe it all seems a little daunting at 16 but it all gets better with a little time ...hugs!
2006-07-31 20:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bearable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so thankful that I didn't discover my sexulity until later in life. I can't imagine having to have dealt with the typical teen years PLUS battle the issues that goes along with being a gay/lesbian. I dont think it's EVER easy to be gay but I think as you get older you begin to care less what others think and concern yourself more with being happy with who you are and finding your place in this world. Regardless of what town you're in you're always going to find someone or something oppressive there that is going to look at your lifestyle as "weird" or "unnatural". Just know that as you grow older and you find yourself you'll care less about what others think!
2006-07-31 19:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not easy being a teenager. I was so confused until my 1st semester of college when I fell really hard for a friend I had some classes with (nothing happened then...she was totally straight). at that time, when I was 18, it was the early 80's and this strange new disease called AIDS was coming to light and all the Bible-thumpers had new reason to point their fingers at us...claiming this was "God's punishment" for being gay. idiots! for that reason, and the fact that I didn't know and had never known anyone up to that time that was openly gay, I stayed in the closet for a long time. when I got older...in my mid-30's I started coming out to friends...and I didn't even come out to my family until I was 41.
but people are slowly coming around these days, and hopefully it won't be such a long, difficult process for you to come out. I don't know how small of a town you live in....I live in St. Louis which has a good-sized community...and a great Pridefest every summer. I hope when you are comfortable with yourself you can come out and be proud of who you are! good luck to you!
iru...you are no help at all. you are the kind of person that makes it hard for girls like her to come out!
2006-07-31 20:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard thing to deal with when you're in high school. College gets sooo much better. Just focus on that graduation date and moving on to college. My school's dorms were coed, and my second year I ended up on a floor with 5 other lesbians. So that's only a small indication of how much it will get better. Enjoy your girlfriend, and take comfort in each other.
2006-08-01 02:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by KnowItAll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didn't get easier for me until i was about 24 or so. but you probably won't have to wait that long! you have a girlfriend to share the difficulties with. look and see if there is a glbt youth group near you like pflag or something. you'd be surprised how many oppressive places have a pflag nearby. seeing other gay people and talking with them and having fun feels really good. some communities want to make you feel like you are a criminal, and having the support of other glbt people will put some positive energy in your life.
oh, iru... reported.
2006-07-31 20:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why blame the town for your problems? It's the life style you chose and being 16 that is causing everything to seem hard now.
I'm not one to believe in your kind of life style but I don't dislike you for it as a person.I hope things get easier for you soon.
2006-07-31 20:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on yourself. im 28 and i still have a difficult time with being a lesbian sometimes. it also has alot to do with the environment you live in. if u feel like u cant be yourself in the town u live in, u should move somewhere where u can be free.
2006-07-31 19:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 life's hard. Coming to terms with your sexuality is tough at this time too.
My suggestion is to chill down a bit and take a step back before you rush into things and relationships. There is a time for everything and I believe that this is your time to get to know yourself first....don't worry....things will all fall into place when the time is right.....don't rush it!
2006-07-31 20:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Surething 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being 16 never mind gay as well....yes an oppressive town can really do it to you...but it will get better...I'm a GWM and now i'm 57...it's really better!!
2006-07-31 20:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋