told him over and over no...he works all the time and I take care of our child house-cat and fish-HE has brought home.I know when we get our new place -he'll get one,bring it home and thrill my daughter with it..and expect me to care for it. should I..a)leave and go to wv with my mom till the dogs out or b)not allow him or the dog in the house. any other ideas welcome..no harm to the animal-I dont care what happens to the guy.
2006-07-31 12:16:59 · 68 answers · asked by cassiepiehoney 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for those who think leaving is harsh, I ran out of other ideas 3 cats 4 fish and 3 frogs ago
2006-07-31 12:22:41 · update #1
as for the guy..this "angel" keeps talking to our daughter about it..raising her hopes and making me the witch that says no all the time
2006-07-31 12:44:56 · update #2
let him get the dog and when hes off working or whatever take the dog the dog catcher or put a ad in the paper and sell it make money off him
2006-07-31 12:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by marynew8 3 · 2⤊ 7⤋
Try sitting him down and being serious, not upset, not moody, just right to the point.
I am worried. I do not want a dog and I am really concerned that you are ignoring my feelings on this. Can we talk?
Write down why you do not want the dog. Don't let the conversation sway to another topic. Stay on the dog without getting emotional.
Sometimes guys just don't hear what we are saying. They need the facts without all the fluff.
I do not want a dog - I am very worried that you are ignoring my feelings on this topic.
You could tell him that if he brings home a dog you will take it to the pound. Or maybe he would be willing to give up the cats for a dog? I think he is looking for somethng to snuggle up with when he is not working that will not give him any lip - a dog is perfect - they love you regardless of how many strays you bring home.
Maybe an option is for you to search the dogs and find one you like and want and get that. If you kennel train a dog it really is not so bad and you have a place to put it when you are not home so it will not distroy things. If all I have written so far makes you sigh in asperation, than maybe moving to mom's house is the only choice. Good Luck.
Oh, oh... wake up and poop on him then tell him the dog did it... he might change his mind fast.
2006-07-31 12:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey if a dog can bring this kind of emotions to a head in the relationship, maybe its not the dog you should be getting rid of. If that is not an option then, flush the fish, let the cat out and let the dog chase after it. and when you walk back in all animals are gone, Yipee. Or you can go this route, use his clothes to line the dog cage and cat litter box, LOL. Seems a little bit trivial to me that you and him cannot get along on this. Good luck.
2006-07-31 12:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do some math and make him know how much a dog costs ..it´s not only the food ..also the vet and what happen if the dog gets sick? besides that you should take care of it...so, try doing the math from now to the end of the year and see if your husband notice all the expenses. If that isnt enough tell him you are not going to do anything for the dog and that until he gets home the dog is not going to eat or enter to the house...be dramatic hehe
good luck!
2006-07-31 12:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. sounds like a lot more going on other than just getting a dog! if you are already contemplating going to live with your mom, you must have thought this out quite a bit. I think I would choose not allowing him or the dog in the house. why should you have to uproot yourself & your daughter because he is selfish. Tell him beforehand that you plan on locking him & the dog out so it doesn't come as a surprise. Stick to it. good luck.
p.s. i have a husband too that leaves me to care for kids, fish, dogs, the house.... I know where you are at!
2006-07-31 13:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by badgurl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
did you know about his love for animals when you were only dating him? You should've pictured what life was going to be with him and many animals while you guys were dating.ughh yeah he's just doing what he wants without regard to your feelings and then he is going to drop the responsibilities on you. Fish and frogs are one thing but a dog is alot more responsibility. I don't know, maybe tell him you're going to buy something expensive, that you wanted that won't give him any enjoyment(maybe a fur coat lol, it's made from animal hair and they're real expensive). Say you're afraid of dogs, mabye say you'll get rid of the dog while he's out of the house one day and he might then understand how serious you are.
2006-07-31 12:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Meowmixtape 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being married there should be an understanding or agreement on thing's that concern the both of you. It sound's as he's trying to control the thing's that are going on in the home and this is wrong. A woman's opinion counts as much in the relationship as does the man's. You need to put your foot down and let him know that he can have the dog but you won't be there to care for it! If he Love's you as he says's he does then he'll hopefully listen to what you have to say, and if not you do as you want.
2006-07-31 12:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by RuneDragon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. tell him he has to take the dog to work with him everyday.
2. Don't take care of the cat, fish or dog. Let them pee and poo in the house for him to clean up when he gets home. [in fact start doing this now before the dog comes....they are his...let him clean out the litter box...buy food, etc. same with the fishies]
3. Tell him at night when he wants to 'fool around'......sorry, Honey, too tired from taking care of YOUR cat, dog and fish all day.
4. Go on line and find out how much it costs to raise a dog....through that figure at him...that's not counting vet bills.
4. Buy a large dog kennel and put your husband in it....with the dog.
p.s. it is not fair to the dog to give it a home and then come up with some b.s. excuse to get rid of it...such as it growled at the baby. just don't let it happen if you can not deal with it.
2006-07-31 12:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by COOKIE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave, obviously from past experience you know he isn't going to listen to you. Let him take care of the dog and when he gets tired of having the house destroyed and cleaning up the poop he'll come to his senses. There is absolutely no way I'd tolerate this, a dog is too big a commitment and too big a hassle to have thrust on you if you don't want it. Fish are easy and have a short life span anyway, cats i can't stand but at least they leave you alone (of course i'd never have one in my house, it would 'run away').
2006-07-31 12:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you hate pets anyway? Pets are incredible for a child to grow up with. How hard is it to feed a dog, etc. They are very theraputic. I personally have 2 cats that are indoor pets and I love them. When my son was little we had many pets. He'll never forget that. Those were great memories to have. Looks like you are looking for something to get out of the house for. What;s wrong with you. ?Maybe you can balance your life alittle more. A fish, cat and house and child are awesome gifts from God. Growup
2006-07-31 12:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Debra M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep returning the dog to where ever he bought it, or send it to the pound. I would also tell him to find a home for the fish and/or cat since you don't want to take care of pets you never wanted. It is hard enough taking care of a pet child all day let alone another dependent animal.
Calmly state your case, find ways to be humane to the animals, then if he still doesn't want to pitch in and help take care of them, I would find a new home for them.
2006-07-31 12:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋