I was planning on paying for my dinner and my parents dinner, but should I pay for their friends dinner as well? If not, is it tacky to ask the restraunt to split the bill?
2006-07-31 11:48:58 · 16 answers · asked by Raging Zizou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, yes, it's a bit weird to ask your guests to pay. I would recommend speaking to the restaurant before-hand, working out a flat fee, and then having the dishes you've chosen served to all the guests. Kind of like during a wedding reception - the guests don't pay for the food, everything is negotiated beforehand, however, the guests also don't get a huge selection of different types of food.
2006-07-31 11:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sahara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Manners says:
A host/ess may never throw a party that she/he cannot afford. There is no polite way to ask someone to pay for the privilege of being a guest.
Why not set up a small gathering at your parents' home, prior to or following the meal or even on another day. Serve coffee, cakes and fruits to keep it casual.
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If you know these people VERY well, level with them at the time you extend the invitation. Let them know that you and your parents' would enjoy their company immensely but you are not financially capable of handling their portion of the bill. Try to at least pick up their portion of the tip. Regardless of your decision, don't invite them and then ask the restaurant to split the bill without them knowing it. That could cause a huge problem..and you will appear very unthoughtful and rude.
If it's of such importance that they be there, try to find a nice place that you CAN afford to treat them all to a wonderful dinner and you'll come out as the hero all around.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 12:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by southrngirl2724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the friends know in advance that you won't be able to pay for the entire bill. Don't split the bill. If you can, pay for some of their bill as a kind gesture. Such as if the friends' portion came to $58 before tax and tip, just accept $50.00 of what they give you and tell them you'll take care of the rest. It's a small but kind gesture. I had to do this with some of my friends. No one cared about paying for their meal because they were excited to get together.
2006-07-31 11:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do the inviting you are responsible for the whole bill. Ask the friends to pay there portion before the dinner otherwise they might not come.
2006-07-31 11:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to plan a dinner party for your parents and invite their friends, then yes I think you should pay for it.
I know 5 years ago, I planned a 50th anniversary dinner for my parents and I invited family and friends over and I paid for the whole thing my self.
2006-07-31 11:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very nice of you to organize this special celebration! And, to make it very clear, when you invite people tell them that there will be separate checks and each person can order what they wish from the menu.
When the checks are passed out after dinner, just pick up the ones for your parents.
Have a great time!!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-07-31 11:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the host of the evening it is your responsibility to pick up the tab. The only time that you are not required to pay for the meal is when the person/people invited offer to purchase their own - and even then you must insist on paying the bill.
2006-07-31 11:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by moonguardianluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your financial situation, and whether you invite the friends to join in the dinner.
If you invited them, then you have to pay for them. If it was your parents idea, then you have to let them know, that they should pay for them.
If the friends invited themselves along then they should pay their own way.
Make sure this is all settled before you go to dinner, as it can be embarrassing otherwise, arguing about who will pay what.
2006-07-31 11:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not pay for it! Just let them no that u are not pay for there dinner ! so they well but it on a split bill .
2006-07-31 11:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the form you opt to ascertain it! concept #a million After he supplied to pay, you will desire to have additionally supplied to pay understanding that the her does not enable you. this way you win the two approaches. You get a unfastened meal and your lady chum does not think of your a inexpensive scate. concept #2 you will desire to tell your lady chum to pass bounce in a lake. between the clarification she invited you, no offense, is in all probability through fact she comprehend that her X became going to hold his GF, so she had to hold her BF. through fact of that and the actuality that it became HER little ones recital, she would desire to of been the on pay.
2016-10-01 07:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by coke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋