My family is in business together and a few months ago I spoke with my parents about it, angry that nothing was done when I kept going to my mom in college telling her about nightmares. The molestation happened only once.They originally didn't believe the housekeeper when she told them 27 years ago... and now I am saying I want him gone for once and for all, but my brother refuses to fire him. (This contractor is going to retire in a few years anyway...but that isn't the point, is it?) I am frustrated that I have never gotten the support I have wanted and I just don't know how to deal. (yes, I am going to therapy for my issues) So if they continue to refuse, do I leave? How completely? Stay in business but not socially? Or yank myself completely out of this situation? Say ok, and then just keep working there and say "ah well" and smile about it? Help would be appreciated. (If anyone is insensitive enough to say: "shut up and get over it" I would be very disappointed.
2006-07-31 11:35:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry to hear that you are not getting any support. That kind of trauma is hard enough to go through, but without a good support system it has to be really tough. Have you approached the worker that did this? I know this is bold, but maybe it would answer a few questions in your mind. If this is out of the question, I suggest taking a vacation away from family. If you don't miss your family too much, then maybe you should pull out of the company. It doesn't sound like a healthy environment.
I'm glad that you are going to therapy to work through these problems. Don't let this situation control your life. It's not worth it...he's not worth it. There are many people that were molested and abused for years, but move on and thrive. You can thrive too.
2006-07-31 11:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by ecogrl23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been through something similar except it wasn't family and nobody would do anything about it. You may have to leave or give your family an choice either he stays and I go or I stay and he goes. It hard I didn't tell my mother for a month and half and I was so scared that she would think it was my fault, but she tried to help me get my job back, but they wouldn't do anything to the man. Dealing is the hardest part you can't run away from it and you can't cover it up like a scar. You need to get anyway from the situation until you become comfortable with working with him which won't happen, but it's up to you completely. i would keep working there don't change your life, unless it makes that uncomfortable which i would understand, I'm sure your family would understand as well. Getting over it will never be easy because you didn't have a choice it happened. I hope this helps and good luck. If you need anymore advice please just e-mail me.
2006-07-31 18:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that happened 27 years ago...and it's way past time you went into therapy. You have the money so do this right away for yourself. The therapist will show you step-by-step how to handle the pervert and your unsupporting, cold family. Don't wait another day.
2006-07-31 18:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a good friend and tell them how you feel and if they cant help talk to the police. you need to get away go on vacation or move he'll retire and then go back and see if your family understands why you left. best of luck and i hope i helped. =)
2006-07-31 18:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by allie baby <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of fuckedup family do you have?? Not a very good one. I would leave. Do you have any good friends that you can talk to, and that actually believe you? I would choose them over the family. Good luck.
2006-07-31 18:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by stickan8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave imediatly!! if he does it once he could just as well do it again! but pray about it first, c wat God has to say because he will help you out of this better than anyone else can ever think of trying to do.... good luck with your decision, i'll be prayin for your family
2006-07-31 18:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw your family. they can't legally fire him for what he did 27 years ago anyway. see an attorney!
2006-07-31 18:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by pete cochino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no statute of limitations on something like that --- you are an adult; file charges!!!
2006-07-31 18:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file charges. you are an adult and you have a right to do so.
2006-07-31 18:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I better keep quiet then.
2006-07-31 18:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋