my husband only likes sex on wkend. i tried to talk to him but he gets mad says he is no machine what can i do

Question

it wouldnt be so bad but when we do do it there is nothing normal about it. it is better than good. we do have toys, i love giving a BJ he has taught me things i never knew existed, but now that i like to have it a lot he is tired. he is finally back to work he had been out of work for a year. only because he says no man is going to take what i have. meaning get a chance with his lady.

Answer 1

It sound like your lovemaking is very good except for the frequency. It is perfectly normal for couples to have mismatched libidos from time to time.

Your husband has started a new job and may be both stressed and tired. If he's afraid of losing this new job, he may be very stressed. Stress is a libido killer for most men. Particularly when it fear-based stress. It make sense that he wants to make love on the weekends when he is more relaxed.

You might be able to get him going with some positive reinforcement. Let him know how much you love, how you're glad to be with him, that your proud of him and that those are the things that make you desire him -- not just a need for sex.

It's sound like you two are a good couple. Hang in there.

Answer 2

well, sometimes guys fall into patterns. I'm not going to ask how you two have sex but if you have 'traditional' sex, man on top, then he does do a lot of the work. Perhaps you should spice up your sex life, change it up a bit, make things a bit easier on both of you.

I love sex and want to have it all the time, however if I have to do all the work then I get tired and a little frustrated and can't. Sooner or later I get lazy and not do it as much. At least you two can do it on the weekends (he doesn't have to work, etc), some couple eventually stop all together

Answer 3

Mr. Chivalry says, "It sounds like it has become a chore to him rather than a time of intimacy and enjoyment. Maybe you could consider getting some spices to add to the bland food on the table. Try some lingeries, or setting up a nice candlelit room so that you can put it on him. Send him a letter to work that's very raunchy, yet sexy in a way that it'll get him ready to see you later that evening. I bet he won't turn down a session of oral either. You can get him to liven up; he wants it, but his passion for it is pretty dormant now. You have to just wake it up."

Answer 4

He has no problem on the weekend so whats up with this picture. Talk with your husband. I'm sure he is tired and all, but try some new ways for you and your husband to enjoy nights . it's not just sex its the building up to having sex that can be a whole lot of fun. For both of you. Communication. Try candles ,a warm bath for him, sexy jammies, soft mudic, a nice masage. It takes two to have SEX

Answer 5

it is like he is a machine. Read with a robot voice: "I can only have sex on the weekends, no other time works for me". Pleeease, what is up with that?? No, try giving him a BJ in the middle of the week.

Answer 6

Does he work long hours during the week? Maybe he's really tired. Try a compromise.....have sex once during the week say like Wednesday and then once on the weekend.

Answer 7

omg I thought I was the only one with this problem this really upsets me Its like you have to have sex on a schedule and it shouldn't work that way.I tell you what I have done I have held out a couple of weekends and he seems to be doing a little better. good luck

Answer 8

Get a vibrator and start pleasuring yourself during the week. When he asks why tell him it's because you have needs and he's no machine, so you went and got the machine to satisfy those needs.

Answer 9

He is not available during the week because he is probably having an affair and is too tired. Be lucky for the weekend!!!

Answer 10

Help yourself infront of him a few times.

And then send him to a urologist. He maybe having a medical problem he won't admit or doesn't understand, like diabetes. It can make men nearly impotent if not completely.