Lately there have been a lot of posts that say that it doesn't count as cheating if it is a married couple with another girl (like wife and girlfriend thing), which is still cheating. Not even to say how unfair it is to the other girl.
And how are the gay, lesbian, bisexual people ever going to get equal marriage rights when you try to say two girls together is just fun and doesn't count? You're not. And they should have equal rights to marry who they love.
This is different from the threesome thing or even the curious thing. I'm not going into that. It's about when you are married then anybody else you sleep with is called cheating. An example is when some guy said he would be fine with it if his wife had sex with another woman but would get mad if it was a man. You are loyal or unfaithful, there is no middle ground there.
And some guy even said to go to a lesbian/bisexual club to try to pick up a girl. That is so hurtful to that girl who doesn't know she is married. WTF?!
2006-07-31 11:24:11 · 8 answers · asked by MindStorm 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't call people names just because you don't understand something. If you want to post hateful things then you will be reported.
2006-07-31 11:37:55 · update #1
Thank you Qchan05. She read the question, which you know helps when answering it.
2006-07-31 11:45:29 · update #2
Dude, Yoda, she wasn't TALKING about both partners being involved. She was talking about the one partner seeing another woman behind the other partner's back. THAT is cheating, no matter what form the relationship takes. It seems that you are the idiot here, sir.
As to your question, dear asker: I agree! Of course, if both partners are willing, then it's completely different, but that's not what you were talking about. Saying that it's "not cheating" if the two partners are the same sex cheapens that relationship. It's like saying that these two people are not in a "real" relationship just because they're both women (or men). I guess to a lot of people, GLBT relationships are "false" ones. Which is, of course, utter bullsh*t.
2006-07-31 11:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Qchan05 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a lot of threesomes with my ex boyfriend and we used to meet gay and bi women and men through a variety of venues. We were very upfront about what we were looking for and I fail to see how that was unfair to anyone or how that would lead to a lack of marital rights. I think that people in open relationships or who swing and lie to their 3rds suck, but then again people in closed relationships who lie to their partners also suck. Lying sucks and it is bad to do to anyone. Double standards suck regaurdless if they are within a mongamous relationship or a poly relationship.
However I don't buy into your monogamist framework. I haven't had a closed relationship in 5 years and I would never go back. I have no interest in judging the worth of my relationship by what I don't do, try not to think about, and try to minimalize to my partner. My girlfriend and I have had two great years and I anticipate a lifetime more. We are honest, extremely loyal, and highly communicative. And we've each had other lovers in the last two years, be it one night stands or multiple encounters. It has never diminished the quality of our relationship and I don't think it should be at all relevent to us getting marital rights. I have done a lot of swinging and sex clubs and the like, and most people in the lifestyle are straight and they still get to get married. So why do gay people have to be held to different standards? I thought that the point was equality here....
2006-07-31 18:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will say anything to make themselves feel better about the wrong things they've done. Cheating, whether between two women or two men, is still cheating. I would also like to add, that kissing someone that you are not in a relationship with is also cheating. What people don't seem to realize is that cheating is not just physical, it is emotional.
2006-07-31 11:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To those asnwering it's not cheating if everyone knows, you're wrong, it's still cheating because you're going outside the marriage, it's just EXCUSED cheating. I think she has a valid point and I aggree with her. I don't think you're an idiot like all these other idiots are saying.
2006-07-31 11:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's not technically "cheating" if everybody knows and consents, but I get your point. If you'd let your spouse play with a same sex partner, because it "doesn't count" while you would never consent to him or her being with another person of YOUR gender (hetero affair) then you've devalued same sex love.
I've never felt that a strong relationship can survive any kind of outside activity (sexually) but I've seen couples who proved me wrong. Doesn't mean I'm willing to accept it, not for me anyway.
But that also means that since I'm single....I'm REALLY single.
2006-07-31 11:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, some people are just like that in this world though. It sucks, but hey what can you do about? Morals mean little to nothing to a lot of people in this world. It is a sad thing, but true...
2006-07-31 12:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by ♣ ♣ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah I see what the problem is here, you're an idiot.
PLEASE explain to me how it can be cheating if both people know full well what's going on and, in some cases, participate?
Cheating is defined as an acitvity that you keep secret. Since there is no secret, how can it be cheating?
I know it's difficult for you and you don't have any experience in it, but TRY to think before you post ok?
Thanks.
2006-07-31 11:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
WTF are you talking about. Are you a certified idiot? Come back on this site when you can create a sensible statement.
2006-07-31 11:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋