here's the deal. my two closest friends, Michelle and Casey aren't speaking to one another. this is what went down:
Michelle really liked this guy, Stephen, who is kinda one of those guys that just wants some ***, but michelle really liked him and wanted more. they hooked up one night. she saw it as a relationship, he saw it as just gettin some. Now Stephen has come around and wants a relationship with michelle and my best friend Casey. Casey now actually shares the same feelings as stephen and they started going out.
the problem is, Michelle says her heart was broken because she saw a relationship and he did not. i try and reassure her that he is just a man hoe, but now he actually has a relationship with casey.
Casey says she really likes Stephen, but Michelle is calling her a backstabber for going out with the guy that broke her heart. but casey says that michelle is a clinger & over sensitive.
what should i do. i am stuck in the middle of this and i dont know who is right.
2006-07-31 11:21:02 · 4 answers · asked by Trish<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
number one rule - the relationship between best friends should never be ended because of a guy - i mean guys come and go but close friends stick together.
Its unfortunate for ure friend michelle to get emotionally involved with stephen because you know all he wanted was *** however it could be possible that he might have changed his ways for casey seeing as they're in a relationship. I think what you think is paramount because youre seeing clearer than both of them,your the mediator,u dont see stephen in that way and so can see him in a different light to what casey and michelle see him in.
Michelle i think has based her relationship with stephen just on the night they hooked up with and therefore maybe didnt get to know him as well as she should and she can't blame stephen for not wanting a relationship because he obviously had other plans. I think you should voice your opinions to michelle and casey and tell them how your being affected , its not fair on you to pick a side, if thats what they want you to do maybe you should reassess your relationship with ure two closest friends.
2006-07-31 11:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by I.Like.To.Disco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doen't matter who is right, and who isn't right. The fact is, both of your friends just want you to validate their points of view.
Tell them both that you love them, that you are sorry that they can't get along, but it's not fair to put you in the middle. You can be friends with both of them....seperately. If you hang out with Casey, you don't want to hear anything about michelle. If you're hanging with Michelle, not a peep about casey. It's not fair to you. If they are really your friends, then they shouldn't make you choose. You didn't have a thing to do with any of this....so you shouldn't have to be in the middle.
2006-07-31 18:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You don't do anything! Don't get in the middle of none of that. When either one of them start talking about the other, just cut them off and tell them to change the subject. If they get mad, so what! I can understand why Michelle would be mad because that is breaking the code. You don't mess with something that one of your friends had. That's breaking the code. All and all, she should have seen that he was a ho anyway. Most men/boys/males that are like that, you can tell that they are like that (ho) by way of their appearance. You can! Just don't get into any of that.
2006-07-31 18:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by sr04model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell both girls that friends are more important than guys, and if both the girls respect each other they would be happy for the other which ever one the guy chose...
2006-07-31 18:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋