how 2 persuade ppl?

Answer 1

Peter, there are many answers for you on this subject.
I first noticed the need your stating at about one day old. I cried for food at my mother's tit.
The fact is: My mother told me that my techniques to get milk, as a small child, made her laugh. After I was weaned, there was little need to cry anymore. I was fed pretty well.
Like you, I matured and found that people were my biggest hurdles in life.
I found that I couldn't force my way, I got beat up or spanked. With that lesson learned, I matured a little more. Friendship prospecting yielded good results until I displeased my new friends in some way. I learned that friendships required lots of responsibilities so I couldn't use them, all the time, for getting my way. It required sharing of likes and dislikes.
My next couple of discoveries during adolescense, about acquiring friends to share in personal goals, took rather hard-to-achieve behaviors. Improving my grades, wearing nice clothes, improving my social personality and remaining clean as possible.
As a young adult in the Army, I was taught some very bad behaviors. The type of behavior the Army wanted did not endear me to friendships.
As I began job seeking, it wasn't difficult to determine the most appropriate behaviors to persuade potential employers, but, it took some work to attain them. I learned in college that there are many, many requirements to facilitate acqusition of things and results of proper work in rewards that benefitted me as a person.
I kept learning to refine my behavior by learning about interpersonal relationships and how one accomplishes multiple goals. Many, many goals cannot be acquired unless meaningful relationships with co-workers, supervisors and clients are realized. I found answers to some questions in school. Psychology, sociology, economics, civics, math and statistics all had a hand enabling me to be more successful in getting many of my goals.
The arts of conversation and suggestion aided me. The psychology of binds were most helpful as my skills increased my ability at persuasion. It occurred to me that there were many specific behaviors and events required to be combined in order to achieve best results. I actually had to improve myself as a human being to gain better ability to persuade others to help me acquire my goals. This perplexed me considerably because its been very difficult to make adequate modifications in my behavior to achieve most of my goals through persuasion of others, but I came to learn that the best way for me to come upon ideal behavior is to go back to the ideas I first had when I was an adolescent.
When you give your word...keep it! When you want friends...be one first! If you've made good friends they will help you if what you want is reasonable.
There are all kinds of books at the libraries, everywhere, that present methods to get others to help get you what you want, but, there is not much beyond that which we learned as children that will enable one to persuade anyone towards your way of thinking.
I guess I'll add Maslow's theory, Hertzberg's motivation-hygene theory and many others are yours for the reading ... and they all will help in there little ways.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

tell them how it is in their best interest
tell them how it will help the world
convince them it will make them cool

Answer 3

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