I have a twin brother who gets drunk with his friends almost every weekend and then comes home really late and throws up and stuff. I have been covering for him alot but now my mom is starting to ask if i no anything about what he is doing when he is out with his friends. I have always said that i dunno anything but now i really wanna tell her because i'm scared that one night he'll get so drunk that the police will come bring him home. He is not the legal drinking age, not even close so if he gets caught he'll be in trouble. I really want to tell my mom but i no if i do he'll be in HUGE trouble. I no what he does is wrong should i keep lying for him? Also, what do you think my mom will do to him if she finds out?
2006-07-31 10:57:50 · 14 answers · asked by Kristy S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
By the way, he DOES NOT do drugs. He has never smoked or done drugs of any kind. He does drink tho and he enjoys it. I know my mother will not send him to rehab because it's not that serious. He is a good student and everything but it's just that sometimes on Friday nights he likes to go out and have some beers. I really don't want to cover for him but i no if i tell on him he will hate me and not talk to me for at least a month. He'll probably thank me later but it's still so hard to fess up.
2006-07-31 11:21:34 · update #1
O.K. I've been there. I am now a LOT older and my brother and I do not speak to each other because I did tell my mother about his drinking and drug use. I was worried about him. I had all the same fears that you do. There is a trust between siblings and I wish I would have never broken it. My brother does not talk to my mother either. Talk to your brother and tell him that if he doesn't stop doing what he is doing you will stop lying for him. Do not volunteer the information to your mom and only give her enough for her to search in the right direction so she can help your brother. This keeps you from totally tattling and also keeps mom off your back because you gave her some info. Good luck!
2006-07-31 11:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by kksay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun I know you love your brother but what your doing is worse for your him than if he were to get caught. You see, your being codependent, your not allowing your brother to face the consequences and he isn't going to learn anything from his behavior. You would be helping your brother if you stopped protecting him. He will never change if you don't and that could be very bad. Your mom loves you kids and more than likely she will (depending on the severity of his drinking) at least become more aware of what hes doing. She may have to send him to rehab. Your mom will know what to do...
2006-07-31 18:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He needs to learn from his mistakes. The longer you cover up for him the longer it will take for him to grow up and get help for his problem. People do not have to drink everyday to be alcoholics (my grandfather was a drunk and he only drank on weekends and beat my dad and his siblings). You are being a co-dependant by allowing him to continue his self-destructive behavior. How would you feel if he was to be driving and killed someone because he was drinking and you did nothing to interviene?
2006-07-31 18:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right for being scared. I would try to talk to him, but you really need to find intervention before he kills himself or someone else. This is very serious! He might be mad at first but will thank you later. Dont think of it as getting him in trouble, but as saving his life!
2006-07-31 18:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be telling your Mom...you aren't doing him any favours...he's going to turn into an alchoholic, then you will feel worse than you do now. sit down and talk to your Mom...she can even cover for you and say she figured it out herself...or someone else told her...someone that had seen him
2006-07-31 18:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. You're gonna spill sooner or later, so it might be sooner, you WILL feel better and your mom will trust you about this stuff.
2006-07-31 18:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty/Penguin Jillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should first get with him and try to get him out of getting drunk with his friends and if he don't straighten you should go and tell your mother about it but tell her not to say anything about it and let her catch him in the act.
2006-07-31 18:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Meme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is he and if he is below age yes u should tell ur mom but more then like i bet she already suspects it moms are like that
2006-07-31 18:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by spoyledmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not doing him any good if you lie , if you lie he will probably an addict to alchool and can be to late before your parents find out and help him
2006-07-31 18:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dayan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents right away. they might be mad but its important
2006-07-31 19:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by HI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋