I am currently going out with a man that has 2 daughter from a previous relationship (common law) relationship . I get along great with the daughters even planned out a birthday party but then the ex shows up introducing her self as the wife , but during that time my man had eyes for only me I think she just wanted to start some crap. but anyways before the party my mans mom tells me how she feels about all this situation and states how much she liked the ex blah blah blah this made me feel like crap what should i do?
2006-07-31 10:56:50 · 19 answers · asked by florlatinspice0825 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Minimize your contact with his mother, but don't take her insensitivity out on your boyfriend. You may want to inform him why you've taken that stance, but basically your issues aren't inside your relationship, but from people outside of your relationship attempting to pry their way in. Maintaining a unified front between you and your boyfriend will keep them from succeeding.
2006-07-31 11:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have two options you can have your man talk to both of them or you can first of all tell his mom it doesn't matter who she likes it's his life and he has moved on. Second you just need to avoid the situation with his ex. If you are too confrontational with her it could cause problems with the kid. My mother in law is evil beyond all evil and I regret not talking to her early on when it all started because now it is all bottled up and I'm afraid if I ever let loose I will give the old hag a heart attack. We also have custody of my exes child so I deal with the old wife thing often too. I have found it is easier to be nice to her. Less tension that way. She is just feeling you out to see if you can be intimidated.
2006-07-31 11:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by vanembryzoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend. Make sure his feelings for you are clear. No matter what the ex thinks, it's what is going on with the two of you that matters. His family will come around eventually. You will have to find a way to deal with the ex though. It might be hard, but you have to decide if the relationship is worth the effort. If it is.. then it will be time to figure that out.
2006-07-31 11:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and bite your tounge with his mom, you'll never change her mind. Just be as sweet as you can and make his ex look bad.
As far as the ex, do you have a common law on the books? If so, are they legally married? A quick call to the county clerk can clear that up. So when she says it again, smile, think of replacing the word wife with wh*re, and say "she is (name of his daughter's) mother, but (man's name) is not married... yet." That should shut her up and get your point across. And then be really sweet. It'll make her look bad and you look wonderful. Good luck.
2006-07-31 10:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to do anything friend. Let "your man" do it. Women have some screwball idea that they are the ones who have to defend their relationship with "their man" when problems arise. Let him be "a man" and defend your relationship. Then mom and ex-wife have been taught an even better lesson. That "your man" really is just that......... Yours. Hope this helps.
2006-07-31 11:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by ktltel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront the boyfriend, ask him to explain the situation clearly, and tell him what he mom said. if he doesnt stand up for you to his mom and wife, talk good about you and all of that then maybe he isnt the one. I would remain friends with him instead, and keep in touch with the girls!
crappy advice I know. I have had better but this is a tricky one.
2006-07-31 11:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I would of asked her what the hell does a birthday party have to do with your feelings about another woman? You hiding something and want to come out of closet, now is not the time to do this ok.
2006-07-31 11:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the thngs partners in relationship owe each other is protection. It sounds to me as though you were not protected and your feelings are entirely understandable. Relationships are negotiated and you might think about asking your guy about it and figure out a way to deal with his mother. She sounds like a real peach. (Or something like that, maybe the word began with "b"?)
2006-07-31 11:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the mom... Ingnore the EX wife.. They are trying to get under your skin... Dont let them get to u. You are happy and that is all that matters... They are miserable people maybe they should get togather. Dont worry about it! Keep on being tough girl ) You just act like u are better than them or act like they arent there and go about ur buisness...... You ARE better than both of them )
2006-07-31 11:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur man chose u ova her u tell the motha that he made his choice n thats just how it is. that u hope she will learn to like u, u tell the ex the same thing n that u aint tryin to be a motha to her girls but u do have a bond with them that is special so she can leave it at that n be glad someone loves her kids that much.
2006-07-31 11:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋