If given the opportunity would you confront the other man/woman?

Question

Give a reason as to why or why not.

Answer 1

Without a doubt yes. I would want the person to know what they had destroyed & warn them that it will probably happen to them as well in the future.

Answer 2

No and the reason is because they never promised me anything, they didn't claim to love me, they didn't claim they would be true to me, they didn't do anything and aren't anything to me. The blame for this would and should land firmly on the shoulders of the person that betrayed you. I would be out of my mind to expect loyalty from someone I don't know. Unless this person was a so called friend, then I think I'd see the signs way before it got that far, I am very selective about my friends. That person doesn't care what they destroyed or what they got mixed up in, if they did they wouldn't have done it in the first place. You just make yourself look like a fool by spouting your feelings to someone who couldn't give a crap less about them, she is just going to laugh at you when you leave anyway. I've seen it a dozen times as a bartender, some chick comes in has a fit cause her man is out playing and everyone just laughs when she leaves. You have been humilitated enough, leave it alone. If I was the other woman in this situation I wouldn't give a crap what you had to say, if your feelings mattered to me I wouldn't have been doing your husband in the first place, I'd tell her she shouldn't have married a cheater if she didn't want to be cheated on, have a chuckle and shut the door.

Answer 3

Good grief yes....but I would do it differently than most would. I would thank them for taking them off my hands, as I had had all I could take of his lying, cheating, etc. with ALL these women. (Make sure to emphasize the "ALL") I would tell them that he will be free to go to her very shortly, as you had filed for divorce and Child support (if applicable) and again, thank her for doing you such a favor. Shake her hand, wish her the very best of luck with him. Smile, and walk.
Get thee to a lawyer and file NOW! File for child support to the tune of $800.00 per month per child. Mean what you say and say what you mean...do not settle for anything less. And I meant it when I said I would thank her. Be very sincere.
Of course, this is about as evil thing as you could possibly do..she will sit back and wonder what the hell she has gotten herself into, but that is now her problem. She is going to be left to wonder, "what did she mean by "all"...If you do not handle this exactly right, she will feel she has won a prize. In reality, you have won the prize by getting rid of him so easily. Set yourself free to find Mr. Right. Not all men are scum. And, lastly, have some real fun with this...you can play a great game if you do it right. You will be cutting his balls off, taking all his money, and dumping a broken jerk into the lap of a real *****! Damn...winning all the way around! And, under NO circumstances, is she to know you are hurt! Don't give her that ammunition...give her nothing but the A$$ of an ex you have had. Let her do the worrying, for she really deserves the very worst, and apparently , that is exactly what she is getting. Damn! I wish I were in your shoes...I would have a hard time holding back the laughter, but then, I am a very good actor. I certainly hope you are also. Go for it!

Answer 4

I would like the opportunity to confront the person, simply to tell them how I feel and what I think of them. However, remember that the other person isn't the only one responsible for the indescresion.. so in effect, most of your anger should be given to the mate that betrayed you.

Answer 5

And what would you really to hope accomplish by this? Do you want to see if this person is prettier/handsomer, or what? It would present a very possible dangerous situation, if you lost self-control. Maybe its the revenge motive, to get even for destroying your relationship. If its the revenge motive,you could do more damage if you would send a thank you card explaining that you are very appreciative of them destroying the long and loving family you took so long to build, and now your many children are about to lose their mom/dad because of this affair, etc.,you get the picture. Personally, I wouldnt do it because at 6ft4in , a martial ats expert, Id be afraid Id lose it and someone would get hurt, as well as finish off my freedom

Answer 6

No. They didn't do anything but follow whatever loose rules of behavior they have. The REAL problem to me is the partner. How did I select such a ______ (bum or bag) and how were my eyes closed so as to not see the betrayal coming? What do I do now? Counseling? Split and how quick? Where do I find help for me to cope with the situation? If there are children, how are they best protected?

Answer 7

maybe, all depends, does the other women know about me or is my husband seeing someone and she doesn't know that he has a wife and kids. If she isn't aware that he is married and he has lied to her about everything then how can i get mad at her for something she truly didn't know, however if this female is aware of me then i would comfront her so that she can see who she is hurting, and so that i can tell her what a home wrecking no good slut she is, i don't beleive in vilence, however in this case i would probably bet her no good a$$

Answer 8

Hell yes! I would want to know who the person was that had the nerve to get involved with a person who was already involved with someone else...and I would probably speak my mind quite a bit to the person. There are millions upon millions of people in this world, why would someone have to interfere with someone already involved? I would definitely need to know who they were, no matter how hurtful if may be...I would just have to know who they were.

Answer 9

yes. it gives you the opportunity to learn the other person's motives and it gives you the chance to speak your mind. A mature approach becomes therapeutic.

Answer 10

Why, would I confront them. Not to long ago I would have did it, But my heartache is not with the other person. It is with the person I am with.