if I masturbate i get a orgasm but if my boy friend do it to me I don't?

Question

what can I do to make me get one?

Answer 1

It could be nerves, try to find a way to be more relaxed with him like you are when you do it alone. Also show him how to do it. If you are masterbating on your stomach, you need to start learning to get yourself off while lying on your back or you will never be able too.

Answer 2

I still have this problem. I've never had an orgasm during sex, but I always get one when I masturbate. And it doesn't matter to me. For me, I'm crazy about my guy and having sex makes me feel closer to him. The people that gave advice about having him play with you for half-an-hour, well, I've never been into that tantric stuff, I'd get bored and fall asleep. Do you feel like you want an orgasm because you 'should' or because you want one? Personally I don't care either way, and if you're constantly focusing on having an orgasm I find it really takes away from your pleasure. No, don't get a new boyfriend, I'm pretty sure if I followed that advice I'd be the dumbest girl on earth.
But what the others said about telling him what to do, go for it. Be nice about it, men's ego can be bruised, but guys like it (or so I've been told anyways) when a girl takes charge.
1) When a girl is on top she has more control. Grind against his groin so your clit is massaged.
2) Try doggy style with his hand rubbing your clitoris.

Answer 3

I agree with whoever said it might be nerves. I know my body very well, know exactly what "works" for me, but it's very difficult to relax when I'm with my husband. I say lay back and allow yourself to relax and pay attention to what, exactly, he's doing...or not doing. And if he's not touching you in a place you know you like (we all have our "hot spots", right?), then gently ask him to go there. Or better yet, move his hand to where you want it. Or if he hits that exact right spot, make sure you tell him. That was a hard one for me, to find the guts to tell him about it. (you know the drill, "oh yeah, baby, right there.") I also had to remind my husband to get his fingers, ahem, slippery. But most of all? Don't stress about it. The more stressed I get during sex about not getting there, the more likely I am not to. I get the best "results" when I'm just there to enjoy myself, the act, my husband, etc, regardless of whether or not I ever climaxed, you know?

Answer 4

I guess ur bf just do it with his hands?ya?by this way u won't get a orgasm because usuallu guys don't know what they exactly should do with their hand and u can explain it for him how to do it for u.but licking is more effective than playing by the hands,so learn him to lick it and use his hand when needed.

Answer 5

get him to play with you for at least half an hour it takes that amount of time and continuous touching and licking for the majority of women to orgasm that's a fact unless they have an amazing partner

Answer 6

Really you can't change what is occuring during intercourse.

Maybe there are things you can do to teach him or he can do other things to you to reach orgasm.

Has he tried oral on you? I'm sure if he goes down on you, you will reach orgasm in no time.

Good luck!!!

Answer 7

Your boy friend needs to stop touching you and start licking you like a lolly PoP!

Answer 8

You need a new boyfriend! Get one with some experience or give me a call and I'll give you a "hand".

Answer 9

Get him to help you do it your way. You know the buttons, show him where they are and press them for him. Guys like that. I do.

Answer 10

show him how or he will never get you off