2006-07-31 10:46:12 · 24 answers · asked by s_castro_9905 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! Why don't you try divorced lonely men.
2006-07-31 10:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is possible that you have issues with committing or dealing with rejection. You, along with many others could possibly be attracted to married men because you have a preconceived notion that if he's married you don't have to deal with him full time. Thinking this way is fallacious. What happens when you decide that you are ready to move on but the man is not willing to let you go? What happens when the wife who may have psychological issues finds out her husband has been seeing another woman and comes after you instead of dealing with her husband who made the commitment to love, honor, and cherish til death do them part? How do you think it will be if one day you think you have found your Mr. Right, the two of you get married, start a family, and he then decides for whatever reason that one woman is not enough for his appetite, and takes on a mistress? My advice would be for you to stop disrespecting yourself by allowing men to use you and abuse you at whatever price or cost, you are worthy of more! Keep telling yourself this until it's so deeply inbedded in you that you know without a doubt that our father did not put you here to be classified as second best to anyone. If all else fails, get some counseling, you are worth investing in yourself...take time to re-discover you. Peace and love to you my friend.
2006-07-31 18:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Airam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of women are attracted to married men, and a lot of it has to do with their sense of security, wealth, whatever.
They just carry an air about them, but once you find a married man that has been caught? Is a whole different story.
There's always the fact that you don't know what he's telling you vs what he's telling his wife.
Don't fall for it no matter how tempting it is. They are only as secure as they are because they haven't been caught yet. Believe me, once they've been found out and told? They are needy wimps, and won't be worth anything.
2006-07-31 17:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you just have commitment issues most likely. Being with a married guy is often a pretty good deal for women, they come over they are sooooooo kind and sweet, they appreciate every minute with you, they help you out any way they can (thats from the guilt), but then they go home, and you know they have to so you get all the good of a relationship with none of the bad, thats why so many women do it. It also leaves you free to do anything you want when they aren't around so its the best of both worlds. Its kind of like babysitting, you get to play with the kids and laugh with them and just have all the good times and be amazed at how cute and bright they are, but then they go home and their parents deal with the real work of being a parent.
2006-07-31 17:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong really... All good ones are taken. (Like I think gay men are also so good looking) Now if you have a relationship with married men, that is wrong. Absolutely nothing good will come out of it.
I guess to know that you are a forbidden fruit for them kind of entices you and makes you a seductress. You can always look and admire but do not wish anything upon it.
2006-07-31 17:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Natali 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there is something wrong with you. You are willing to lure a man who is in a commited relationship in to being with you.
Two things....first of all you don't think highly enough of yourself to have a man of your own, and secondly deep in your subconscious you are glad that they won't expect commitment from you becasue you are insecure about your abililty to be special enough to have a man of your own.
There might be a thrid reason......you get a demented rush from the forbidden. Find another healthier rush, like jogging or swimming. Build up your confidence and get a man on your own.
You are probably addicted to the rush of your taboo behavior.
If you are capable of f.... with married men you are capable of making the choice not to. You know you just have one life to live and when you die what will you be remembered for doing......seducing married men? Time to change your behavior. .
Think about the man and their families.....the children, the wife, the wedding, the holidays. Does breaking up a family make you feel like you have power?
2006-07-31 17:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are afraid of commitment, so you go for the ones that you know can't commit to anything. Try this, go and ask a guy out that you know that is NOT married, Bare with me I know this isn't the norm for you but give it a try, You have to keep in mind there are jerks everywhere and you might stumble upon one but keep your chin up. After you ask out the single guy, if he says yes, go out to eat, to a movie, club or whatever you go nowadays. Yes he will be nervous, unlike a married man, he is out to impress and in hopes to get somewhere. The married man is out to impress but the confidence he has no problem with because whether he gets it from you or the wife, He is getting some tonight. That is probably what attracts you is his cool and calm approach, where the single guy's are all uh duh uh duh and cant get out what they want to say. Just go out with single guy's for pete's sake. Good luck., tramp.
2006-07-31 18:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say there's something wrong with you! i would say your problem may stem from self esteem issues! you may feel that you don't deserve a love of your own because you know married men never leave their wives! so baby girl, don't fool yourself...... besides, how would you feel if someone stole your husband and wrecked your home? find a man who will only have you as a woman. don't play second best.... you're far better than that! be blessed and don't get sucked in by selfish men.
2006-07-31 17:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by God's own 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, nothing wrong. Many women are attracted to married men because they subconciously think he is a better suit for a mate than an immature, unmarried man.
2006-07-31 17:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sometimes said: "All the good guys are engaged or married". It seems that you are hitting the good guys. Keep doing what you are doing and you will certainly hit the "good and the unmarried". Don't worry.
2006-07-31 17:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you like the challenge and competition. Or are you afraid of being in a relationship so you pick guys that are already taken?
2006-07-31 17:49:57 · answer #11 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋