my bf just enjoys tickling me very much...seems to amuse him very much...but for me it is a real torture....any of u out there have ever been tickled for a long time?where r u the most ticklish?why u think he enjoys this so much?????
2006-07-31 10:32:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are several issues to look at here.
The first issue is RESPECT. If you really do not like it and you want him to stop, you need to tell him that you do not enjoy it and you want him to respect you and stop. If you do enjoy it but it is too hard, too much, too painful... You need to talk to him and let him know that a little tickling is fun but not to go overboard. You also need to tell him what he is doing wrong so that it remains fun for you. If he respects you, he will listen to you and follow your requests.
The most likely reasons that he enjoys it so much are:
A) He loves your laughter. One of the most beautiful sounds in the world is the sound of girls/women laughing.
B) Your reactions. How you react to the tickling might seem fun to you.
C) He does not know that you do not enjoy it so he thinks that it is fun for you.
D) Power. He can playfully make you submit to his wishes by tickling you because he has the power.
E) Fetish, Like me, he probably has a tickle fetish and he loves to tickle (and possibly be tickled by) a girl/woman. If he feels confident with you and he thinks that you enjoy it, it is satisfying his love of tickling.
I have engaged in several long, playful, restrained tickling encounters and the things that make them fun and safe are RESPECT, TRUST, and FUN. The tickler MUST respect the ticklee and not take it too far. The ticklee MUST trust the tickler not to take advantage of them. Both parties must strive to keep it FUN and SAFE for each other. Being aware of your partner's comfort level is also critical in these encounters.
Feel free to email me if you have questions, want advice or anything else.
All the best to you both!
2006-07-31 10:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If YOU DON'T like it (enjoy) then put a stop to it. During the war Germans used this practice as torture. To tickle someone for a short period if the receiver likes it, is no problem. BUT to do it constantly more so when the person being tickled does NOT like or enjoy it is pure torture. Don't let him do this to you any longer.
2006-07-31 17:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just let him know firmly that you don't appreciate this. He probably does this because it's fun for him and because he doesn't think you mind that much, because you laugh when you're tickled, so it would seem as though you enjoy it. People laugh when they're tickled though because it's a way the body makes you cry for help, so if you feel tortured, just let him know.
2006-07-31 17:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jumpin Monkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're ticklish, he probably just enjoys hearing you laugh. It's almost like tickling a two-year-old. You really don't care what they think, but you find it enjoyable. If you can't stand it, just ask him to stop, and if he continues, ask him y he does it.
2006-07-31 17:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by mattiebouge 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably enjoys seeing you giggle, gasp, and squirm. Tell him he's so romantic, start fondling his thingy, then squeeze, and turn. Now you get to see him gasp and squirm. Giggle about it, and squirm a little so he knows it's all just fun and games. Then ask him nicely if he'd please not tickle you any more, because there's a lot of other ways he could get to see you giggle, gaps and squirm without making you feel bad.
2006-07-31 18:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I absolutly HATE being tickeled. I have knocked the wind out of quite a few people when they tickle me. I have been told my feet need to be labeled as weapons of mass destruction.
2006-07-31 17:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlyn's Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, im ticklish everywhere, and all my friends take advantage of it and after awhile you just want to kill them. Its touture and i think he is enjoying this because he is flirting with you, its cute after awhile, but tell him there are other ways that he can get your attention.
2006-07-31 17:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by ++Laura++ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to see u laughn n break some tension is all, its all good u 2 must be young still , it will change to kisses n stuff lata on.
2006-07-31 17:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes it because it gets to touch you. :\
2006-07-31 17:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by nerveserver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO SOMETHING TO HIM THAT HE WOULDNT LIKE. LIKE HITTING HIM IN THE PRIVATE ANDTHEN HE WILL LEAVE YOU ALONE.
2006-07-31 17:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by hutmamma2004 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋