What do you do when your dad is to over protective?

Question

Okay, so my dad is so over protective! And hes made my older brother and my older cousin think and do the same things as he does. I had a boyfriend last year, and i thought i'll just ask my dad if I can go to the movies with him and a couple of my friends!!! Before i said anything else he stopped me when I sayed i have a boyfriend. and he was like freaking out!! I really hate him because of this! It is so annoying! What should I do! im afraid to tell him anything now!

Answer 1

Okay I really want to answer this one because I'm a single parent of a 12 year old and I have 1st hand experience.

I also I'm a Cooler & Bodyguard and I like to start off answering this question telling you this world is not a bed of roses. No this is not a lecture this is from a parent ( Dads ) point of view and me being out their in the mess where I have to stop a grown man from taking advanage of these young girls.

I was young to and my ( Dad ) was a Policeman and all I heard was this and that and I wanted to get me some of it and all young people do.
They don't understand until they grow up and are parents went though the same thing believe me this is why ( Dads ) or so protective.

We want are kids to have a good life have things ...good educations we love are kids and nobody will not hurt them if we can stop it.

There's so much meanness going around its sad!!

I protected so many and their parents don't even know it...and half of the girls ( Young Women ) themseleves don't remember it either.

Don't be upset with someone who loves you and whats you to never grow up its all we have is are kids.

I wish I could protect everyones children but I cannot...but there's other Coolers & Bodyguards and Men ( Daddys & Big Brothers ). Policeman & Women etc...

We can help a few but some slip through are hands and end up in wrong places around wrong people.

Women Prisons and alot of grave yards has proven this.

" Talk " to your dad show him you understand and are mature and he my ease off some but don't expect him to walk away like your no part of his life...because if he cares he will never ever leave you side ( sorter speak ).

I also have lost 3 kids they are in heaven with their mom don't ever let your dad feel the pain I feel.

Tips : Always call your dad when people are doing wrong...he will come get you...Always keep your guard up on who you trust...Always keep a level head and in strange places set with your back to the wall travel in a pack ( with a friend always ). Look behind you to the both sides and forward.

Answer 2

How about this.
Been there, done that, I'm a man and know what's going through young men's minds.
We are assuming that you are under 18, living under your parents roof, not able to support yourself due to not yet having received a college education.
You are young, enjoy life and freedom without the hassles of an emotional relationship. Forget having a boyfriend. Do that when you are older.
Understand this is coming from a guy who enjoyed dating a lot of girls in HS. I was lucky in that only one girl I dated ended up hating my guts. I look back and see how much damage I could have done.
Stop with the guys, start with the books. Your mind is yours, fill it with knowledge. Knowledge is power. Power allows you to pick and chose.
Get into sports. Your body is yours. Control it, shape it, gain power and grace in your form. With that power and grace..guess what, it gives you choices.
Trust your dad for now. he is trying in his own way to help you. He just can't explain it all. It's a bit hard to talk openly with your kids, makes you feel on the defensive in that there are things you can and can't say.
Forget the emotional rollercoster for now, let your body settle down with it's change into womanhood.
You'll have time to play later.

Answer 3

You are extremely fortunate to have a father who cares enough about you to be "overprotective".

Here is what you should do -

Establish a well defined set of ground rules and keep to them. If he says you are too young to have a "boyfriend" he is right. He is right because he is your father and he sets the rules until you are 18 or 21 years old.

Your obligation is to find a way to live comfortably within those rules. 18 comes quickly enough. Dont rush it. You'll be that age soon enough. And shortly thereafter you'll be a whole lot older.

Tufr

Answer 4

Overprotective dad usually like to be in control of everything. Try giving him some power in your relationship. Its going to suck and make things really awkard but allow him to be involved. Tell him you really want too date and that you understand his qualls. Give him control like for example. Let him decide where you guys can go and how long you guys can stay for. Tell him that you can be picked up by him. Tell him to meet all boys first and ask what he thinks of them before you go out with them. Sooner or later he will start trusting you depending on the quality of men you choose. This is how a friend of mine handled it and her father was so overprotective. But eventually he will ask questions less. Just be ontime and do not pick bad guys. Listen to your dad and talk to him in a calm adultlike attitude.

Answer 5

I know the feeling, i am the oldest and only girl and my dad is so over proective, but when i reached a certain age he just backed off. You have to show them that you are responsible and if he keeps this up, when you get on your own, you will go buck wild and then he will just be more over protective. Just ask him why is he that way.

Answer 6

because they hate seeing their little lady advance up. even if my dad isn't that way with my sister, maximum dads are. same with moms and sons, why do you imagine they got here up with monster in-regulation. because countless moms do not imagine any lady (or boy often times) are sturdy adequate for his or her sons. Dads and daughters, properly daddy's little lady applies too starting to be up. So courting lower than 18 to a figure is like going out and having sex to them.

Answer 7

well all dads are the same they just want the best for their children thy to undestand him he loves you !