I want to have two children by the time I am 30. Why is that "too young" now a days?

Question

My husband and I wanted to have two children before I turn 30.

I want to get pregnant in a few months when I am 24 and have my first baby when I am almost 25.

I want to have my second baby about 2-3 years later, so by the time I am 28 I will be finish.

If my husband and I decide to have a third baby then I will still have time before I am 30 to get pregnant again.

When people find out my age they think its crazy that I want to have children so soon.

Seriously, what is wrong with having wanting to be done with pregnancies at 30?

Is it so abnormal to have children in your 20’s now a days????

Answer 1

I am 27 and have 2 girls ages 6 and 1.

Answer 2

That's funny. I had 2 kids before I was 20. I had my first child at 18 and my second at 19. I think people are going to judge no matter how old you are. My fiance and I plan on have 1 or 2 more children bfore I'm 30. He's 3 years older that me. I've actually been asking my dad and his fiance to have a child. I know it sounds crazy but I think it would be neat. My dad is 42 and his fiance is 25. There is no set age to have children. I personlly feel that as long as someone is in a committed relationship(doesn't always mean marriage), is financially secure, has health insurance, an education. and can deal with the physical and emotional needs of a child then go for it. A lot of people think it's not normal to settle for an "ordinary life" at a younger age. Have fun and have as many babies as you want and have them whenever you want.

Answer 3

We only have so many good fertile years. After the age of 40, it is not even recommended to have children. So the best baby years are really between 20-30 yrs old. I had mine when I was 20 yrs old and enjoyed being a young mom and I look young for her and I am still very physically active so we can do alot things together. She is now 19 and I am 41.
If she had come later, she would be turning 20 when i was 50 if I had her 10 years later. I like the 'young bond' we have together. It is something to think about and does present a good argument in your favor. So to answer your question, It's not abnormal, it's very normal. Our biological clocks do run out.

PS. My parents had me late in life. I feel kinda cheated because they seemed very old and that means less years with them. My mom was 40 when she had me, my father was 55.

Answer 4

That's an excellent question. I have had 2 pregnancies so far...one at 21 and the other at 23....I don't feel that I;m too young, and may have one more before I'm 30, but 30 is pretty well my cutoff point too.
All I can seriously think is that there's so many obsessed these days with "living' it up" while you're young...have to go so many places and experience so many things before you should commit to a family...what a joke!!
Have the baby when you're most comfortable and most ready in every possible facet. Do the people that think you're crazy also realize that as a woman gets older, her chance of having a baby that's born with a defect also increases? (I believe Down's Syndrome is one of the many possibilities).
It's your life, your body, and only you know what and when is best. Good luck!!

Answer 5

I had my only daughter when I was 21. I had planned on having a second one by the time my daughter was 5 but my husband and I divorced before that happened. I was hoping to have a second child by the time I was 30 but that passed me up 10 months ago so hopefully by 35, if not, I give up cuz I dont want to be having kids @ 40!

Answer 6

hheehehehe. You are talking to judgemental people. I am 24...just turned 4 days ago...thank you very much and I am on my 2nd and last pregnancy. I often hear that I am young to have 2 children.

My husband and I both have great carreers. We have been together for 10 going on 11 years, married for 6 months. We both like to party but we are good parents!

I think you have to remember that what ever is going to happen in life will happen. No matter when you have your children.

I love that my son is here. He is getting to experience so much more than he would have had we waited. He'll have memories that he otherwise would not have been a part of.

I know it sounds weird but it is what it is.

Good luck...Don't wait for anyone. Do what your heart tells you to!

Answer 7

I think it's perfect that was my plan a few yrs ago. I ended up having my 1st at 21yrs (no regrets). Second, your ready for this one. Just recently in April 2006. I just turned 31yrs old..I was 30 when I had him..Yes, call me crazy, waiting 10yrs but that is what happens when you have them young. Like my dad said I was his backwards child had the kid, house and marriage w/ another baby now. If your in a stable relationship and everything is ok financially go for it. Hey your the one that has to go through it and support them so don't worry about what people say. Remember you want to be able to play with your kids and you know what everything you do has it's goods and bads. I loved it growing up w/ my 1st and even now with my 2nd. I consider myself young enough to join him in the monkey bars when his ready to go. What ever you decide good luck..

Answer 8

Abnormal? Girl, please, now a days if you have babies by the time you are 30 you are considered too old. I just turned 25 a few months ago, and I have 3 kids. I don't know where you live but you are already old.

Answer 9

here's the thing....
In our 20's we are still learning about ourselves.
It's a great time for self-discovery and getting to know who we are.
It's a time of exploring and discovery.

So, when a person chooses to have a child in their 20's, it means they may miss out on the opportunity to discover you.

Instead, you are raising children and your priorities and life style change to diaper changing and the likes.

I think if you do choose to have children young, that can be a good thing, considering you have financial security.
You will still be young enough to have fun with your children...and be "cool" or fun for them.
Not just a stuffy, adult.....

But, people are still having children in their 20's. It's just not recommended.
So, you can live a little before reproducing and giving your life to someone else....

Answer 10

I don't think that's early, actually I think 30 is a very common age for having children. Out of my five girlfriends from college, all have said that they won't have their first child until about 29-30. My sister had her first child at 29. Don't worry about what other people say, do what's right for you.