i bought my buddy a bottle of wine for a going away and i gave him a free cd player , he seldomly calls me and i usually have to call him i allways go to his house and he hardly comes to mine he shows little appreciation for me and i show so much to him i even wanted to throw him a going away party
2006-07-31 10:05:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
...erm...this 'friend' is really just there in your life for the purpose of highlighting your loneliness to you. if you felt at one with him and he with you, you wouldnt have felt so unhappy right? so you feel at odds with him because he (unlike you) is a toe rag. so obviously, you still feel lonely, with or without him. if it takes effort to be with him, and the results are the same whether u are with him or not (i.e that you are lonely nonetheless) then why make effort to be with him when he clearly couldnt give a toss about you. he's baggage man, tell him where to stuff it! you're better off talking to the trees!
as a person who comes from a large family, who didnt identify with my peers on most occasions because i used to think well ahead of my years, i came to find a friend in books. fortunately i'm a strong willed person with a good self esteem, so i decided to channel my energies to volunteer work! i never looked back, i started in my teens and i'm still at it! (i'm now 34/35) you make friends, other genuine people who care about others and even if you still dont make friends, at least the people you help with genuine problems, will no doubt appreciate you offering your time. dont waste your pearls on swine brother, get out there and make your mark where it will look like a work of art, instead of a grubby paw stain, at the heels of he who is so undeserving. go on, get up and do the deed today, just give him the cold treatment, so that maybe, if he has a brain instead of a specimen, he'll think about being as lousy as he is. love others AS you love yourself, dont love them more, or less, AS...take care,Whizzdom
2006-07-31 10:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are so many people out there that probably badly want to be your friend. If you really don't think he appreciates you (maybe it'd be good to sit him down and talk about it) then keep looking. Think about it this way. Pretend you're standing on a piano bench (yes, a piano bench) and he's standing below you. Now, try pulling him up... Unless you've got superhuman strength, you can't do it! But HE will pull YOU down! Let him go (after a talk) and find someone new. I can guarantee you, there WILL always be someone new.
2006-07-31 17:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by krazykiddz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad...you know the answer but don't want to face it...He is not interested.
It's a funny thing about people that when you continually give it is interpreted as and probably is a desire for acceptance and approval. You are craving compliments that will never come.
People begin to resent the person who keeps giving w/o gratitude because you make them feel bad about themselves.
Back off and work on building your self-confidence.
2006-07-31 18:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a two-way street! He is just using you to get what he can. You have to feel sorry for someone so limited, but you need to get him out of your life! This will clear space for new real friends. You won't be sad and lonely for long!
2006-07-31 17:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by 2307Connie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, keeping bad friends will only make u more sad and lonely. go out and make some new friends that will appreciate u as much as u appreciate them.
2006-07-31 17:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by nycangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the guy. If he truly misses your comapny he will make more of an effort. In the mean time, hang out with people who appreciate your comapny.....Or get a pet.
2006-07-31 17:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....a bad relationship is more depressing than no relationship
get out in the world and make some new friends!
2006-07-31 17:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way....
When you stop hitting yourself on the head with a hammer it will feel REALLY good!
2006-07-31 17:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Stargatebabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U DON'T HAVE TO STICK WITH PEOPLE DON'T APPRECIATE U....u will feel so much better without em...like u can finally relax!
2006-07-31 17:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by paranoid. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and make new friends,he does not deserve you.
2006-07-31 17:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by brown.gloria@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋