Any women who have discovered their husbands cheating....?

Question

Have any of you tried contacting his "other woman"? What were the results?

I'm just curious, I have been seeing and reading all these questions regarding a spouse(mostly husbands) cheating. I think it is very unfortunate. I feel bad that so many are having to deal with this, sometimes I wish someone would knock some sense into some of these men. That made me wonder if anyone ever tried to confront their husbands "ow". I just wonder if confrontation would scare off some of these tarts. If nothing else, sometimes a cat fight is great, why not cause a little upheaval in their fantasy?

Yes, interesting answers so far. Let me clarify, I'm interested in confrontation if you are still married and not actually completely ready to divorce his lying a**. Also, one response makes a good point, she may not be aware he is married, so you could make it a "friendly" confrontation. One thing is for sure, he has definitly lied about you, regardless if the "ow" knows he is married or not. I just want to know if anyone has had success with this. I think it is feasable and could be helpful to others. (I could also be totally off the mark.) I am just wondering about possibilities. I am a person who speaks up, so I could not just allow it to happen without saying something. I'm not necessarily talking about loosing control or respoding emotionallly. I'm thinking in more of an assertive letting her know you are alive.
By the way this is not to discourage any from describing comming to blows, I say what ever works for you. I just want to know what you did and how it worked.

This question was not meant to define adulterous relationships as a whole, it is just a question to women. You want to answer it from a mans perspective, feel free. If you want to be offended that I didn't clarify that the reverse can happen to men as well, feel free. My question stands.

Answer 1

No I never have confronted her it is not worth my time, besides my EX says they are just friends. Whatever, more like friends with benifits. She continues to make little comments to my kids, but I don't let it bother me. My kids are smart they will figure it out for themselves. What comes around goes around.

Answer 2

Just to clarify, it isn't only MEN who have affairs, WOMEN do also.
I caught my husband with his OW(other woman) just as he was leaving her house. I didn't say anything to him. I went into her house and found her in the bedroom getting dressed. I asked her if she knew he was married, with 2 children and she said, "No." I then walked past them and went home and packed his things.
We are now trying to work on our marriage and get it back on track. Not easy to do. The only problem is that this OW still tries to call him still. I have taken a couple of those calls and given her hell. It supposedly, was just a one night stand. I don't believe that to be true, as he was staying out late or not coming home, for about a week before I found them. His friend was the one who told me where he was.
I think confrontation is the only way to go. I am a strong woman and wanted to see, for myself, who this OW was. I know I did scare her! I meant to.

Answer 3

What you don't know can't hurt you!! Emotional cheating hurts far more than physical. SEX is SEX is SEX = The Clap, HIV, CRABS, Anyway woman who do tend to date married men or men already involved, are usually afraid of commitment, and don't really expect the man to leave his other half. And some woman, if they know both parties, are craving what they see in that particular relationship. Once trust has been broken. Or once you are finally ready to except this could be happening, Do not take it personally. trying to hard to make it work, or behave like the woman u think he wants, its just not attractive, so be u and good luck

Answer 4

Unfortunately I'm able to answer this question based on experience. My reaction was not one of violence. I guess I was in complete and utter shock when I discovered the truth, so I wasn't able to respond with the sharp retorts I would have liked. Ultimately, my husband became my ex-husband. Once trust had been lost in a marital relationship, I found it too difficult to invest all that is needed to have kept it working.

Answer 5

I was actually caught up in a relationship with a man that I thought was single. When i found out that he was actually living with a woman and they had two children and were trying for another I called her. She was very gracious and did not doubt a word I said. She kicked him out only to let him back into their home a few weeks later. he continued to bother me and tried to renew our relationship. It did not matter to him that he had almost lost his family he continued cheating on her. She allowed him back in her life and last I knew they had another child. I walked away and never looked back, but I was glad that this other woman listened to me and was not upset with me. I could tell by the few conversations we had that she was upset but that she did believe me and was glad that someone had finally come forward to tell her what she suspected had been going on for a long time.

Answer 6

If i got here upon my husband cheating on me i might confront him first and communicate approximately why it has surpassed off. There in keeping with possibility a loss of love or affection, i might like for him to particular the way it have been given to cheating. And if truthful i might see if there became besides to keep the marriage. If it variety of feels impossible, then it is sparkling to pass seperate strategies. communique is the biggest.

Answer 7

Yeah, my ex-husband "ran off" with another woman... He moved in with her after we split up. I didn't have to do a damn thing but to watch him go out and screw all these other women behind her back. If I was feeling vindictive, it would have pleased me to see this, but by now I simply don't care. Still, it's kind of ironic tho.

I think the best thing to do is not to confront the "tarts", but let them have the "prize".

Answer 8

Confrontation is the only way. Just ignoring it will solve nothing. Any self respecting woman will confront her man. The other woman only should be confronted if she knew he was married cause lot of men lie. Don't let the bastard get away clean....confront him to let him know that you know.....Good Luck

Answer 9

I was one of the husbands who asked a questions about cheating tonite. I want the whole world to know I regret what I did. I was weak, and what I did was wrong. Now I just have to weight and pray that I don't loose the Love of my life.

Answer 10

I caugh my husband cheating. I've long suspected it but he kept on saying that it was all in my head. He said that she was just a "friend" and I should dare to contact her or embarrass her. I told him that if it was all inocent he wouldn't have a problem with me meeting his so-called "friend".
A year later I received a phonecall warning me of my hsband having an affair. They told me where they were and I went and caugh them red handed. I confronted her and she just your flip me over, got on her car and drove away. My husband was livid and didn't say a word. I was crushed, angry and wanted to kick her @$$ but I realized that iot takes two to tango and besides, I was not going to go low down to her level. I also laugh because she was just so tacky, a plain jane. I told him" I though that you have better taste"
I divorced him and I am so glad that she took him off my hands.