After fighting with my husband for him to not take his own holidays and me pleading with my boss to have the whole week off & my husband being happy about it and than saying we would stay longer if I had the week off (coz he was going to go else where and I said I'd go with him) he had told me NO coz I have to work but now that I get it off his friend calls him and we leave ON. early and go home for him to go off with his friends not even wanting me to go and I busted my *** doing all the garden work. Needed help. Should I be Pissed? Coz he sure does't think so and acted like nothing was wrong when he came back. Why would he when he got away from me and the kids and he had said some nasty things to me when it all started. I even saw a side of his father in him when he was freking on me. The kids knew something was up and that they said dad started in on me but they didn't know what. I told them that it was nothing but I sure feel very hurt and unpreshative.for us to be togetherwasgreat
2006-07-31 09:28:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Couples don't take separate holidays. it's that simple. There's a major problem for him to be able to. I certainly couldn't enjoy myself without my partner there. Without the kids would make a nice break, but without her? No way! There's work to be done in your relationship, and you can't force him to do it.
Good luck honey
2006-07-31 09:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by DragonRyda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to return the favor and go off with your friends and leave him there with the kids. Or a more positive way tell him that he acted like his father and he hurt yours and the kids feelings and you will give him the chance to make it up to you and the kids this time, but this is not something that you are going to keep putting up with. Make the plans and tell him what they are and that you and the kids will be ready when the time comes. Good luck.
2006-07-31 09:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my marriage progressed my wife and I , on occasion, would discuss things that would be considered the kiss of death in a marriage, separate vacations was one of them...especially without the kids...I think somewhere along the line some things become more important to them than family...cause when my wife began going off on her own...I knew it was the beginning of the end for us...couple of years later the kiss of death set in...don't wait and feel it gradually fad away , let him know quality time is spent with you or you and the kids.
2006-07-31 09:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give the guy a break...if you want a responsible and caring father and husband he needs to relax too.
stop comparing him with someone else even if you think you are right. its not right comparing him... He is also working hard, perhaps you need to take some time off and in this way you will see how important it is to be relaxed...
2006-07-31 11:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by texraider27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The details are unintelligible. It is impossible to reply.
2006-07-31 09:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a man and like most other women's questions I don't understand what you are talking about.
2006-07-31 13:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
id be pissed to girl, thats selfish of him,its not right at all.i feel bad for you
2006-07-31 09:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you have the right to be mad.
2006-07-31 09:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you were not wrong.
2006-07-31 09:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋