We were never really compatible as a marital team, but we clicked very well as friends. Although we haven't spoken in over 3 years, he's always in my mind acting as part of my mental audience, if you will. How can I get this man, who left me for another woman, out of my mind?
2006-07-31 09:21:56 · 24 answers · asked by Gretchen P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get off on being STUCK ON STUPID. he's moved on, and so should you
2006-07-31 09:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is hardest to get over someone who you thought of as a true friend. True friends are who you talk to when you are going through the ups and downs of life. Though I have been happily married for 12 years, I still think about 2 ex boyfriends--not because I want to get back with them, but because I lost 2 great friends in the breakups. You miss the closeness of the relationship that will come back around to you when you find someone new. Just remember, true friends don't betray each other. Keep smiling and good luck.
2006-07-31 09:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not remember the good times, keep him in your mental audience if he adds value. Maybe something about how he handled situaions, you admired thus you would like to keep him there in your mind as a "what would my ex do" sorta thing. Really good thing you could do is find yourself a new partner who can knock you off your feet and help you not to think about your ex at all. Oh, and ignore the idiot above me who said to change your name. Gretchen is a lovely name.
2006-07-31 09:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Get a hobby. Going to the gym, going to the spa etc. Something in the end that will make you feel good about yourself. Then get out there! Meet someone! Go to the bars with some girlfriends, ask someone to set you up...He has moved on, so should you! You deserve a chance to be happy and find someone to share that happiness with! Good Luck!!
2006-07-31 09:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by jennlinn21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is that you've never let anyone replace him as your friend. We often think that just finding another lover will make us forget someone but we often forget that in the long run it is the bonds of friendship that sometimes matters most. In your case until you find someone who can be your best friend and who you click with like that he will always stay in your mind.
2006-07-31 09:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, do you have a hobby, if not get one, go out and live your life and meet people, soon there will be a man that will help with whatshisname. Seems to me that you are dwelling on that part of your life and will not let it go, occupy your time with something and soon that will be a faded memory. Good luck.
2006-07-31 09:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by understanding what he did to you... LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER WOMAN... there was never a charisma in between you two... and Girl.. you go out, hang around new friends.. and i bet someone will tingle your mind.... give up the sad mentality and cheer up... we are all living a bonus life... and it isnt fair to lose it over someone who doesnt care....
2006-07-31 09:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by too_unconditional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is a pretty long time! I still think of my wife, and we occasionally see one another, we've been divorced since 1984. I think you have to let your self trust and be a bit open to giving that loyalty to someone else. Hopefully it will be with someone more compatible!
2006-07-31 09:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. First I need to know have you had a boyfriend since him and I dont mean dating I mean boyfriend. Also who dumped who. Chances are he dumped you which is why he has moved on and you have not yet sorry but its kinda how it goes. Once you find that guy for you it will be a lot easyer to move on yourself.
2006-07-31 09:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sports36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe simple reason u are not seeing any other person and holdinh on to th epast having the perception he will come back...he wont...its just what natuarally people do who feel insecure in their relationshipns....best thing would be get on wid life..date someone else of ur interest u will click with someone surely
2006-07-31 09:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating... A lot. Don't be afraid to fall in love again. It sounds cliché, but you need to "get a life". It's hard work to "purge" someone out of your mind, but you've got to do it.
2006-07-31 09:48:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋