I'm married & Bi-curious; how can I have my 1st sexual experience with a women?

Question

My husband knows I like girls. I so badly want to be with one. How can I turn my curiousity into reality? It would be just me and another beautiful lady. Sorry not into butch women, but a pretty femmine lady or lesbian to teach me the ropes. JUST FOR MYSELF, not the hubby.

Answer 1

Well, you could have an affair, and keep quiet about it like everyone else that wants another sex partner just for yourself.

Other options are likely to lead to hubby wanting a threesome... and are not exactly "just for yourself," depending on how you interpret that.

You could film it for hubby's viewing enjoyment, or you might get hubby a mistress, and trade her off between the two of you on different days and suchlike. You might even discover that your husband is also bi-curious, and get into a peculiar partner-swap arrangement. The adult film industry is also looking for new female talent, as usual, and some dealers might be willing to set you up with what you're looking for as part of the business.

In general these ideas are hard to see through for the simple reason that most people feel that their sex life should be a private situation between two people. Many of them also come with serious drawbacks... well, all of them come with their own unique but serious drawback, and there are probably other ideas I haven't thought of.

Answer 2

There are a lot of things you need to consider here. One you are married, and regardless of how much he may say it is ok...it often turns out that he will not be ok once you've actually been with a woman. Everyone is different I do know plenty of married women that are bi and actively with women while happy with their husband and the husband is accepting of the situation. Keep in mind though, that while it is with another woman you are opening up a lot of gates that can't be closed once they are opened. He can use the fact that you are with another person to justify any of his own indiscretions.

Another thing to consider is, and it is not very rare because I've seen many cases personally. A woman will be bi-curious, have an encounter with a woman and be all out bi. Afterwards, after a period of exploration and inner turmoil, she will realize she's not as into her husband as she is into her female partners.

As a lesbian, I think women are amazing. But as a person, I should say that before you go out and have your 1st experience you really weigh all your options and realize that once you've crossed that line, a lot of things in your marriage may change...and not necessarily all will be good.

Answer 3

You cannot have your cake and eat it to. You are going to be married and loyal or you are going to cheat. It doesn't matter if it's another woman or man. At least you said bi-curious or I would have had to go off on the myths about bisexuals. It's fine to be curious but you are married now so you shouldn't act on it. That wouldn't be fair to your husband or the other woman. The "just for myself" part is right, it wouldn't be for her only you. You could really hurt this other woman if she doesn't know your married. If your married you are married.

Plus how will lesbian, gay, and bisexual people ever get equal marriage rights when you think that another woman doesn't count as cheating? They will not.

Answer 4

A search would turn up good places to look, but are you sure that turning fantasy into reality is worth any damage to your marriage, or the loss of your marriage altogether?

Also, can you handle your husband deciding that he needs to try something new with a new partner, too? Because it would be very hypocritical if you couldn't.

I'm not judging your emotions or attractions; it's just that this kind of thing has very serious consequences. It's okay to have fantasies! It's okay to flirt and watch pornos and read erotica and everything else! But please think VERY HARD before you bring another person into it. Doing it is much, much, much easier than undoing it!

Answer 5

Excellent question.
As the husband of a bisexual woman myself you have several hurdles ahead of you. First will you be open about this encounter with your husband. If not that actually makes it easier. If yes then you'll have to deal with his feelings. The more secure he is the easier it will be.
Secondly you'll have to find someone who you like and are attracted to and vice-versa. Are there any good gay/lesbian bars in your town? That would make things easier.
And lastly you'll have to deal with your own feelings about the whole encounter later on. Will you continue with the relationship or do you just want a one night stand?
But whatever you do be true to yourself and enjoy. This really is a whole new world of experience for you.

Answer 6

I say go ahead find a girl and a motel and do your thing, and the hubby well he should go find himself a girl on the side to have some fun with two. If you feel like he can't have another woman than you shouldn't even ask. If your cool with him finding a nice 19 year old and bending her every way possible then yeah go eat some Pu**Y.

Answer 7

its funny how married women think it is their privilege to decide they are bi-curious, screw around on their husband, potentially hurt a girl, use a girl, and then go back to their husband.
believe me, ur husband will crack the sh*ts if u f*ck a girl. it will break down ur marriage. why did u get married in the first place ?

Answer 8

You just responded to my question a few minutes ago but I didn't have any way of getting back to you with an answer. There was no return email address. Anyway the answer to your question is "yes" I do have sex with both! If you like to email me my email address is ...Thanks

Answer 9

Dating sites?

Answer 10

Have a 3-way first. Then try to break it to him that you want to do it with chicks with no emotional attachments. Make sure he understands that it's he that you love and want to be with. From time-to-time, bring home a hot chick for him. Make sure he understands that it's just sex, not love.

or

You can just fool around behind his back.