My family is not at all racist, but they don't agree with interracial relationships. What do you think? How should I tell them I am interested in dating another race? Thanks!
2006-07-31 09:14:21 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 48, and married to a black man and we have a 15 year old bi-racial daughter. Twenty years ago where we are in the south was BAD news when it comes to inter-racial relationships. One young black father got into a mouth battle with a white man on the highway, and the arguement continued until one of them pulled into a parking lot...at which point the young white man shot the black father in the head right in front of his white wife and children. Luckily,it has gotten better, but families seem to have the worst time of it when it comes to accepting differences. Just sit them down and quietly tell them you have someone you want them to meet. Explain that you like him, he likes you, and you want some time to get to know this man. You can gently let them know that this gentleman is of a different race, and that you would appreciate them being the wonderful people you know and love, and to please show him the respect they would show ANY stranger you might bring home. Let them know that (if indeed you ARE) old enough to make certain descisions on your own, and that you would like the lee-way to make this one. My mother was older (nearly 70) when I met my now husband, and she was horrified that we would have a child. Her take was that the baby would not be black OR white. My response was that my daughter is black AND white..she has two worlds to get to know! Mom finally got over all her fears of her family talking, or the neighbors, when she realized that the neighbors and the others in her family don't pay our bills, so it's a moot point what THEY think! She came to love my husband and my daughter, and before she died, we moved in with her to care for her until the end. She loved us all...it just took her some time. Give your family time, and the room to digest all of what you have to say, and if they say something ugly, just remember that everyone can change their minds about things!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-31 09:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by themom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one..... Start talking about him to your immediate family (without mentioning he's black at first) and tell them all the good things about him. If you guys hit it off, show them a picture of the 2 of you instead of just coming out and saying he's black. Let them see for themselves. If any of them have the guts to say something like "but he's black?!" then you should be prepared to tell them that you truly care for him (and vice versa) and that if they love you they won't stand in the way of your happiness over something so stupid. Invite him over for dinner if you feel comfortable enough that they won't make any racial slurs or something. A lot of ppl only have views like this b/c they don't interract with ppl of other races on a daily basis. If they get to know him as a person it won't seem as foreign and outrageous to them.
In the end, it's your life and you shouldn't have to live by anybody's rules on whom you should be seeing.
2006-07-31 16:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do It baby doll! I`m dating a black girl and my family is crazy about the idea. How ever I`m a grown man and make my choices weather they like it or not! If you really like this guy? then don`t worry about what the family thinks!
2006-07-31 16:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are against interracial dating, then your family is racist. Date who you want and don't live for their approval.
2006-07-31 16:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, I see nothing wrong with it. Not at all.
But anyway, I'd tell them the truth. The truth, as St John said, will set you free.
2006-07-31 16:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they don't appove of love where love is regardless of colour, then they are racist. Simple as that.
Follow your heart, they will come round
2006-07-31 16:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I wouldn't tell them, until you had to. I would go ahead and date him for awhile and if it gets serious then tell them. No since upsetting them if it doesn't work out!
2006-07-31 16:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Indiana Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 17:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it's what you want not them just talk it over with them..
2006-07-31 16:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like you told us./ He's HUMAN. It's your LIFE!!!
2006-07-31 16:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋